i booked the tv repair guy a week later than i should. mum had to take the morning off work and crashed on her way there. i was 11. I am still blamed and i am now 39.
2007-04-12 05:40:46 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
No offense, but it sounds like your mom has major self-esteem issues, and is projecting them onto you (giving you self-esteem issues, as well, possibly). I promise you, it is her fault for crashing her car. She was driving. It's completely unforseeable that the timing of a particular appointment with a tv repair guy could have any impact on whether or not someone gets into a car accident. If she blames you for booking the tv repair guy a week late, ask her: why did she leave that responsibility to an 11-year-old?
The reason she blames you is because she thinks it's easier than blaming herself.
2007-04-12 05:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by Bee_Gee42 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was no ones fault these things just happen
If you were only 11 at the time why was you booking the TV guy you were only a child
A adult should have booked him
You should have a long talk with your mother about your feelings and get things out into the open the chances are your mother doesn't blame you any more
2007-04-12 05:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by Black Orchid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cos your Mum needs to grow up.
Why were you booking the TV repair man..at 11 years old?
It sounds like she was disorganised. Unless you were driving..or jumped in front of the car...it IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!!!
You've both had 28 years to think about this. Does your Mum blame the weather on the day, the car maufacturer, the council for putting the road there? Cos it sounds like she would do.
Am sorry you have had to live with that for 28 years..try to let go...
You don't say if you only have your Mum..perhaps her anger is at the thought that she might have been killed..and left you alone in the world?
Hope you work through it soon.
2007-04-12 05:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by i_am_jean_s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have a terrible tendency to look for someone to blame when a disaster happens but lets face it, i can't think of many people who would leave an 11 year old to book a TV repair. That was her responsibility as it involved booking somebody who fitted into her schedule.
As for blaming you for the crash - SHE was driving.
You might ask her, next time she brings it up - were you driving or was she? Who was the adult in this situation, you or her?
Talk about passive aggressive!!!
2007-04-12 05:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by tagette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was definitely not your fault and your mum should have forgotten about it 28 years later. Besides, you were only 11 and booking a repair for the TV was not your responsibility so talk to her about it and tell her how you feel.
2007-04-12 06:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_angel92 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to sound so harsh, but your mother is clearly an idiot. An 11 year old should not be in charge of booking repairs, and the timing of the accident is neither here nor there. The accident was PURELY the fault of the individual who screwed up on the road.
2007-04-12 05:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What an odd situation.
The relationship between the booking of the repair man for the TV has nothing to do with the way your Mother drove her car, so it's her fault. Anger Management seems to help. Advise your Mother.
2007-04-12 05:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by MANCHESTER UK 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, your mother has nothing better to do than to blame you for an accident that happened 28 years ago, I could see if you grabbed her head and smashed it into the steering wheel, it being your fault. Anyone behind a wheel needs to take responsibility for what happens while they are driving. She was the adult.
2007-04-12 05:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by c_schreel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I want to know is who slammed into who or who was operating the vehicle if it was a single car accident? You cannot be held responsible for someone else's bad driving regardless of the circumstance. Even the law says that.
2007-04-12 06:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by Sophist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were merely an scapegoat for your mothers inability to take responsibility for her own actions and for her to still blame you years later is unwilling to admit her own mistakes.
no 11 year old should be booking any event.
2007-04-12 05:50:06 · answer #10 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋