How do you get your husband to help clean around the house?

Question

My husband hates to clean. I understand that, but we both work full time and I am 31 weeks pregnant. I clean everything, i do dishes, laundry, and everything. The only way to get him to clean is to get in a fight about it and then he will help out really good for a couple of days. How do I get him to get into routines to help out. I have tried talking to him about it. Last night I went out to a friends bridal shower. I left a list on the board of things that needed to be done around the house, hoping he would think oh i should do that for my poop pregnant wife, but no! he sat at home on his butt and watched tv. What do i do? Help!

Answer 1

Getting pounded on the head w/ the rolling pin usually works. Seriously, just ask real nice like. Explain you're pregnant and that he really needs to help out as it's tiring you out. Explain that when the baby comes, he and you are going to have a life altering experience and that everybody needs to chip in. I'm very happy for you. Kids are wonderful.
Tell him he's being really selfish. Leaving long lists of things to do is not as good as asking him w/ a smile on your face telling him you love him, can't wait to have his baby (yours as well) and that you would really appreciate his help in preparing the home for the new edition to your family....

If that doesn't work, get the rolling pin out.....

Answer 2

nobody like to clean. call a strike, dont do anything like him. dont even fight about it just simply say i am on strike from all the cleaning, washing dishes, and cooking. it might take him a couple of days to notice that you are serious, but he will come around. or either ask him when you go to cook, "do you want to cook or wash the dishes after", one person do one the other person do the other, same with laundry. but the key is you have to keep it up. if you start to take over he will let you do all the work. we teach people how to treat us. also however he cleans, and no matter where he puts stuff just leave it, if you tell him its not done right or thats in the wrong place or thats not how i do that, he will take offense and not want to help anymore.

Answer 3

"why would i want to do the dishes?" Lol, did you see that movie? Routine? Good luck, cleaning? good luck! Sorry to hear your dilemma, really I am. Some men just don't know. If your pregnant I am sure your nesting and his clean varies from your clean, do you complain about the way he cleans? If so that's your problem right there, if not getting into a regular fight might be a routine! Use that unborn baby as excuse for him to clean, i.e. my back hurts but this place is dirty, or my feet hurt can you help me? Just keep trying.

Answer 4

Good luck. Men dont read lists well and they dont listen too much when you say you need help. With mine i get pissed off and all he says is I help you do everything, yep he keeps that spot on the couch from getting dusty and he does put the dishes away, but theres more to keeping a home up than that. Sometimes I wonder if there is still the idea that housework is only womens work, while she still works and does everything that men do. I dont know what to tell you but if you get a good answer let me know.

Answer 5

My husband is the different. he's getting on my nerves. He do no longer want me to scrub or do something in the domicile, like im in simple terms think to act paralyze. properly i comprehend that's our first toddler so he may well be somewhat overprotective yet he's honestly over reacting. He run his mouth at me if i touch any purifier in the domicile. properly i lose interest being on my own all day in the domicile whilst he's at artwork and particular he does clean the domicile whilst his off artwork yet that's purely on the weekend and that i won't have the ability to stand to attend that long previously seeing my domicile clean. We continuously argue by fact he comes domicile and see the domicile clean and he thinks i develop into straining myself or touching some domicile cleaners that he thinks will supply our toddler delivery defects. surely, he's stressful yet on the instant i do no longer even care im 38 weeks pregnant and im continuously drained for some reason so i think that's solid that he's not letting me clean. solid luck on your being pregnant...

Answer 6

i'm not sure.. my bf just helps me out.. :) we do everything equally..

maybe you should just go on a strike.. your pregnant and need to take it easy.. and not get stressed out.. explain that to him.. and tell him with a baby on the way he better be ready to start helping out and acting like a real man! do it in a nice non naggying way though.. you get more bees with sugar.. or something..
I'd start letting some stuff slide.. maybe not do the dishes exactly when they should and to not do as much of the daily stuff.. let some stuff slide and perhaps he can pick up the slack

Answer 7

If that'st he case of him being lazy, I would only clean up after yourself, that way the mess left behind is his. He'll either get the hint and clean after himself or not...silent treatment has always worked for me, and I'm not married =) If you done everything you can and nothing's worked, he sounds lazy and maybe even (a loser) I'm sorry to say =(. Congrats on your baby!!!

Answer 8

You can't get him to help if he doesn't care what the house looks like. If you are the one who wants the house clean, you have to clean it. You leave lists for children, not for spouses. You should talk to him about why it is important to you and tell him how it makes you feel like he doesn't care about you.

Answer 9

Why did you marry such a spoiled baby? He is not really a man if he does not help. My wife and I share all domestic chores. I suggest you tell him that he is acting like a child.

Answer 10

Stop doing the chores and let the house go to the dogs.