2007-04-12 05:19:17 · 9 answers · asked by cherry 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I was a surrogate mother for a couple about 9 years ago. I heard a lot of " giving up your baby" arguments.
2007-04-12 05:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the precedence with surrogate motherhood is that the organic and organic and psychological consequences that being pregnant has on the pregnant woman can sometime truly intervene with the letting flow procedure. some surrogate moms want to keep the little ones. i imagine before someone decides to be a surrogate mom, they ought to ought to undergo psychological finding out to make positive that they could get up to this. On a personal note, i imagine all of us who's keen to carry a baby for some different person is doing a marvelous project. I truly have 2 little ones of my personal and positioned being pregnant so complicated that i will not imagine dealing with it for all of us else. That there will be women those who're, that's only a brilliant present.
2016-12-03 21:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only one I can think of, and it's a big one, is that the surrogate may get attached to that child while she's bearing it, and be depressed over giving it away, or not want to give it away at all. I'm sure that some women do feel that way, and we've seen court cases and news stories about that. But not all women will react the same way.
2007-04-12 05:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe women should have their own babies. If they can't ... they should try other means but the surrogacy thing I don't approve of. People are strange. They will say one thing and do another.It is very easy for a woman to say... " I will carry your baby for you" but after doing so for 6 to 9 months she may feel differently. The life inside her affects her hormones and reasoning and she may change her mind. It happens everyday. I say try Adoption, Artificial Insemination, the test tube method or something else. Long ago when a woman could not conceive... she dealt with it. If she couldn't have kids... she couldn't have kids. Children are a blessing and a curse but they are not Gods. It is not the end of the world if you have none. Ask all the women who chose and didn't choose not to.
2007-04-12 05:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem will surrogate mothers? Its just a way of giving life to people that aren't able to. At least the child will be loved.
2007-04-12 05:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I havent been a surrogate mother (Im in Australia and its only legal in 1 state - not the one Im in) but I did go through IVF to have our child - my sister now needs IVF to fall pregnant and I know so many people who are going through or have gone through IVF some successfully and others not - I have also been an egg donor for a friend who cant make eggs good enough for IVF (I have done this for her twice now) I know people who have remaining embryos and cant bare to part with them but know they wont be using them and need counseling to help them decide what to do... this is such a very personal question you have asked in that I feel that its up to the individual person as to wether they agree with it or not. I see your asking for some arguments agains surrogacy but Im affraid I cant help you there as I would do it for my sister or my close friend if they needed it - that is if it was legal where I live and the fact that I need IVF to fall pregnant and I had a horrible pregnancy and never want to be pregnant again.
To me donating my eggs to my friend was just an act of friendship - I had to go through counseling before I was allowed to donate and as I explained during the counceling - any child my friend has with my eggs I would know that they are biologically mine and they may even look similar to my daughter (should it be a girl) but I would see any child as a relative (like a neice or nephew) but I would plainly know the child wasnt mine - I didnt carry it for 9 months - I didnt give birth to it - all I did was donate some body parts and thats it! In Australia its also illegal to be paid in any way for donation of body parts so I didnt do it for money I just did it to help out a friend fulfill her dream of having a child.
I just thought of a down side to surrogacy - having a child inside you, growing in you, moving in you, causing all that horrible morning sickness (or 24 hour sickness in my case) and then giving birth it might be hard to let go with no feelings of wanting to keep the child - I do know that a surrogate mother can change her mind at any time and decide to keep the baby - its kind of the same with the IVF eggs I donated - I can change my mind about the donation of them right up until they are inserted in my friend - she could be on the table ready to go and I could pull the pin on her (legally) but I have no desire to do that to her and Im happy with the child I have and have no real desire to have any more children so I suppose I have to go back to my original statement and say I would if I could and I dont think I would have a problem with surrogacy at all. One other thing that I dont know how the laws work where you are but here in Australia a child born through surrogacy has to be legally adopted by the parents who wanted the child and had it carried for them by someone else so that could be a bit of a down side - the red tape. With the donation of my eggs any child can try to find me when they turn 18 like any child who has been adopted - they have no rights to my posessions etc however in my case as I dontated to a friend I will know the child and we have already decided that we will tell both our children (when they are old enough to understand) how they are related (IVF have put out a book to help explain this to kids) so it will be a very open and common knowledge thing... Im not sure I could donate to an unknown person though.
Im not sure by your question which way your leaning - it sort of sounds like your after arguments against and maybe thats your belief but then your question then suggests that you might be for surrogacy - which ever way I hope you find the answers your looking for.
2007-04-12 05:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Kazz♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if someone does not want to do it that is their choice and i personelly would not want to do it because when you are pregnant you get attached and that would be soo hard to let go. In another way i can see why a person would want someone to do this for them because it would be theirs and it would still have the blood line. Of the parents who couldnt do it on their own both sides are correct in what they say it just all depends on how much one person can take.
2007-04-12 05:23:47 · answer #7 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
every valid thin{k}g is depends on our maturity!!!...
2007-04-12 05:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by MSM S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its stupid unless the ppl are blood related
2007-04-12 05:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋