I have a really banal wife that I have been legally obligated to for the past 13 years next month. It's been a mostly average marital ride. Not really bad, not that interesting either.
Some of the women I meet during my missions work tend to make things a lot more interesting. Of course, due to my marriage and obligations to God I tend to keep things rather simple and to a minimum.
However, I have spent the last six months with a really wonderful Korean girl. I converted her last November, and she looks to me as her personal leader towards Christ. I am natually willing to take on this role, one I have been groomed for my whole life.
However, she is starting to question my ability to commit to her. I have told her frequently to just look at my marriage. If 13 years doesn't show her that I am a person of integrity, I don't know what will.
I would just introduce her to the wife for a character reference, but the little woman doesn't know about my extra "homework assignments" if you catch my drift.
I guess I'll just keep praying!
God Bless
2007-04-12 05:05:48 · 18 answers · asked by Kermit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You think that you are a person of integrity because you have been married for 13 years? BullCRAP!!!
LOL - that would be true except that you are also an adulterer and using God as your wingman.
I hope you get AIDS you moron!
2007-04-12 05:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ker Plunk 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No. issues are actually not high-quality. they're high-quality for YOU because you get all some super reward of having a spouse with out legally having a spouse. For her, it is devastating because of the fact she probable feels there might desire to be some thing incorrect together with her in case you do not choose to marry her and if I have been her, i might sense sorry approximately nonetheless being with you. This woman has given you her existence AND a new child. in case you probably did not choose to be dedicated to her for existence you are able to have worn a condom. era. finished end. Are you looking forward to a breakup interior the destiny? It seems such as you're. if that's the case, try this undesirable woman a choose and back out of her existence NOW, on an identical time as she nonetheless has of undertaking to locate a first rate guy with a backbone and parental responsibilities. in case you think of your dating is sturdy and additionally you do not assume a smash up then do the best ingredient and marry the lady you adore and the mummy of your new child. you're saying you're dedicated yet strikes talk a techniques louder than your phrases and additionally you're being inactive. you're being egocentric and childlike right here. you reside a grown up, married existence and additionally you have a family contributors collectively. sign the bloody paper. shop separate financial business enterprise debts while you're so worried and sign a pre-nup. do you be attentive to what variety of stigma follows an single mom? only because of the fact lots of folk are doing it would not make it commonly used. She may well be dealing with assorted tension from exterior sources, including family contributors. in case you have been dwelling collectively you're already straight forward regulation and he or she could take 0.5 your sh!t if she felt like it. you're actually not all that risk-free against a criminal stance. No courtroom will area with a deadbeat dad/boyfriend over a new child and their mom. Do you relatively think of paying new child help while she leaves you would be extra low-priced than a marriage license?
2016-10-21 23:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be in the ministry. You are not a good role model and you do not represent Christ. Christ does not want His servants having wives and "girlfriends." If you have been "groomed" for this role, someone failed to teach you about integrity and what God requires of His servants.
Confess your sins to your wife, your elders, your girlfriends, etc, heal your soul, and find a job that doesn't lead you into temptation. Otherwise, God will take care of you sooner or later - He doesn't care too much for hypocrites.
If your prayers are hitting the ceiling, you know why.
2007-04-12 05:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by mom of 5 in CA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, Jesus cant forgive you for a sin till you've stopped doing it. You cant say "Pardon me for my adultry" while you're still in the middle of it. So you're living with that sin on your head. Walking around teaching about saving people's souls, while yours is tainted. It's a good thing your little girl doesn't read your account anymore, or she'd be ashamed of you, and I bet she'd tell your wife, as it would be the right thing to do, and she's a good christian. Poor you, then you'd be left with a dirty soul, and the son you dont like. Plus, God forbid, something were to happen to you- you'd be in the afterlife with an unforgiven debt you'd have to face. How ashamed do you think God would be with you?
2007-04-12 05:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by Goddess Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it that you are having more than a professional relationship with this woman? If so, you need to find someone else to help guide her in her religious studies. Being in a relationship with her is an abuse of power in my mind.
Then you need to take a good long look at your self and pray on the matter. You need to have an honest discussion with your wife. You don’t sound happy together and if you plan on staying married, you need some counseling in order to make it work.
2007-04-12 05:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Robin C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is people like you that made me stop going to the church to worship. Now I worship at home on my own time. You are a hypocrit. You go and tell others about God and the Bible I assume, and yet you are doing the very acts that you teach others not to do? HOW DARE YOU! It is bad enough for someone to do that if they are not preaching the word. But for somene that represents the church or God to go do it makes me sick to my stomach. You should go confess your sins before your wife and church and pray and beg for forgiveness. I am sickened by this!
2007-04-12 05:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by Royal Pain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that when the marriage is ho-hum someone starts looking for a way out. Or should I say "IN" to someone else and their pant area.
Commit to her!! are you insane!!
Get your @$$ back to your wife and leave this other woman alone. No more hanky panky for you young man!!!
Maybe you should teach your "grill-friend" the 10 commandments.
And for an "extra assignment" the both of you could try abstinence.
Dirty dirty Man.
Go Pray... and mean it this time.
Peace
2007-04-12 05:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok, godly man! Most important of a christian walk, adultery don't fit in there. Be careful God don't teach you a life lesson you don't want dude. Wife and girlfriend of the same christian man. Mmmm, what church and God are you following?
2007-04-12 05:22:14 · answer #8 · answered by Ms CMP5260 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I get your drift. You are a jerk. Did God tell you to cheat on your wife? Grow up. And yes, as an adulterer, you need to go boldly to the throne of grace and get out of the ditch!
2007-04-12 05:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by missingora 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you are really the best kind of Christian (see me rolling my eyes) It's nice to see you misleading this Korean girl and your wife. . Way to go. Christ was all about ruining people...right?
2007-04-12 05:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋