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Question

Last year, I posted two questions about my friend liking the guy I like. Please read them before answering this. Thanks! Well, she finally admitted that she liked him from September to December last year. She said she couldn't tell me cos she knew it would hurt me but she told the rest of the school. And now, I feel an idiot for trusting her in the first place. She makes me so angry sometimes but other times, I feel she is the closest person to me. I want to tell her that I want a period where I test her friendship but how do I do this? Do I just say it and should I do it face-to-face? I won't see her till next week and by then, it will look like I'm making a big deal. I'm really hurting inside from her mistrust but she did say sorry. Please help me figure out what to do... any advice will be gratefully taken. XD

Answer 1

Don't be ashamed of making a big deal, because it already is a big deal on its own. Your reaction is perfectly normal. If you want to continue the relationship it would be very healthy to say, "Before I can forgive you, you have to show me for a while that you can be trusted."

Aside from the mechanics of forgiveness, you might want to consider why this person who makes you so angry is your closest friend. Is she really a friend or a manipulator? Sorry, I didn't read the other questions, so maybe you covered that already.

Answer 2

Been there! First of all could she help her feelings. You two are not the first to like the same guy and you should not lose a best friend over a guy unless she cheated with your boyfriend or something awful like that. If she just liked him so what she is intitled like you are. You should tell her how you feel but then let it go. Some people just have to learn to get on with it there is definitly more to life. Don't wait around for the guy and don't chase him because that is sometimes the only time guys put in any effort. If he doesn't like you so what, you do not want to be with some guy who doesn't like you. Anyway if you talk to your friend and if your friendship is worth saving then deal with it. You know how on the show Friends how they would often be straight forward with each other that is how I believe friends should be but not all people have that personality but then there are no surprises. Good Luck!

Answer 3

It sounds like you really care about her so if i were you i would find a way (email, phone, txt...whatever) to get a hold of her and let her know you really need to get some things of your chest and don't want to drag this any longer. once you get a hold of her make sure to let her see this hurt you way more than what a guy is worth ....that it hurts that someone you value so much could have kept something from you that knew was going to hurt you. Express how you feel and let her know you don't trust her like you use to but you would like to...after that i wouldn't tell her you want to test her, just be friends but watch her and make sure she really is a friend(everyone makes mistakes__just make sure she learns from it) Tell her if there ever is a next time you would much rather hear it from her ASAP if she's crushing on someone you like so you guys can go from there.....

Answer 4

First you need to let her know that she hurt you. If she's as good a friend as you think she is then she'll understand your honesty. Then if you want to test her do it silently.

Answer 5

Just do a cat fight with her and the guy you both like, the winner will get the guy.

Answer 6

this is NOT a friend.

i'm sure you can find other, more trustworthy people out there who don't talk behind your back.

Answer 7

GROW UP and get over it.

Answer 8

get over it.