2007-04-12 04:39:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No
The actual wedding doesn't mean anything. Why spend thousands of dollars, the marriage is just as real when done quietly with very close friends and family.
It's about your love and commitment to each other, not a fancy dress and expensive cake.
Have a small wedding, even courthouse or small wedding chapel, then have a reception for friends and extended family.
2007-04-12 04:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by hi_stk_n 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, Honey, I don't. I've only been married one time. We did it this way: He and I both got dressed up, I got flowers to hold, and hired a photographer. I asked a friend to witness. Me my husband and the friend stood at the front of the church with the preacher, got married, and took a few photos for the family afterwards. The whole thing cost us about $500. Including the $100 tip my husband gave the preacher. We're still married and we spent all the money saved on things that we needed. Also, I've always felt that a wedding like this can be enjoyed more. You don't have all the hassle and worry about something going wrong. We enjoyed it. We also had a family get together a few weeks later just to get everyone together to celebrate. (oh, and also I got a cake topper made and put it in the freezer so that we could eat it on our 1st anniversary). ...that was fun.
2007-04-12 12:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding is the actual part of the day when you get married, the actual ceremony itself. The rest of the day is an optional party, there are no hard and fast rules and people sometimes choose not to have a party, it's not robbing yourself, it's a personal decision whether to party or not. People place far too much emphasis on the party rather than the actual wedding itself.
2007-04-12 11:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do. If you mean in a church. Getting married is a special occasion and one you will always remember, so make the most of it. Going to the court house to get married seems so cold, you don't have to have a big wedding, just one where family and friends are there. Take a lot of pictures so you can look back at them.
2007-04-12 11:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only robbing yourself of anything if you feel that you absolutely must have a wedding. If you don't have a great desire to have one, then of course you're not "robbing" anyone of anything. I've been married three times, and it's always been either small informal ceremonies, or eloping. Never wanted to have a fancy wedding, and never felt deprived. It really depends on how you yourself feel about it.
2007-04-12 12:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends what you mean by the 'wedding'.
People tend to act like the cake and the dancing and the party is the wedding. It is NOT. That is a reception - a party - that follows the wedding.
There will be other big parties in your life. Hopefully, you only get married once.
Do that part the way you want, and make it count.
2007-04-12 11:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever see those old movies where the bride and groom come out of the church or wherever and a few friends throw rice and the couple get in a car and just leave?I think that's the way to go. You can use the $30,000 or more to start your life together,rather than borrowing money from family and friends that will take years to pay back.
2007-04-12 14:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you are robbing yourself of anything. I got married twice, at the court house. I didn't want a big wedding, and couldn't stand thinking of the money wasted. We had a BBQ after, at our house, with close friends. That was MORE than enough for me.
2007-04-12 11:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No! not at all! My husband and I were to nervous to have a big wedding with a bunch of people watching us, so we just went to the justice of peace and did it! We are still happilly together and couldn't be any happier! As long as you are marrying for the right reason(love), then I don't think it matters how you do it!
2007-04-12 12:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do believe that everyone (men and women) should have a wedding. No, its not about the amount of money your spend, the wedding dress, tuxedo, bridesmaid, etc. It about the ceremony for me. Its being willing to admit in front of everyone you hold dear and GOD that you are devoting your life to this one man or woman, and as a couple you will walk the life or righteousness and love that GOD demands, expects, and loves!
2007-04-12 12:27:21 · answer #10 · answered by hypnotiq8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋