ok this is a hard situation im in and i really would like to see other peoples outlook on this.- ok 3 years ago my mom met this guy at our church, so they were friends first and his family would hang out with our `family anyways during that time i started to hang out with his son, so after awhile my mom started dating him and then his son asked me out so we were dating too. it as casual at first but then 2 years later my mom and his dad get married- and me and his son are still together! we have been seriously dating for 3 years now( the same as our parents but our parents have been married for a year now) so now we are technically step brither and sister but we are still in love with each other and he wants to get married. evertone thinks its weird that im with my stepbrother but its not like that- we wee together way before our parents got married, i just dont know how to deal with this because we really love each other. my question is what would you do in this situation honestly?
2007-04-12 03:48:41 · 36 answers · asked by Jesus luver 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When someone brought it up, I would laugh and say, "Yes, it does sound weird, doesn't it? But you never know who you're going to fall in love with and we're so happy together!"
In other words, accept that it IS kind of different in the sense of being unusual. Treat others with understanding and humor, and don't let this interesting coincidence become anything of importance.
2007-04-12 03:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is so easy.
First, it's not weird that you are interested in this fellow. The circumstances under which you met are just a little different, that's all. This is not like a girl having the hots for her blood relation brother. You are a church girl raised with moral values. All your life you have been taught what is right and what is wrong. Don't listen to the ones who claim that this is weird. They are not the ones living your life.
Second, the prime reason for blood relations not to marry is for the prevention of having children with birth defects. This doesn't seem as though it will be a problem here.
Third, don't get married and have children before you get your education. Set yourself up so that if things go sour in the relationship you will be able to support your family without a husband bringing in the money.
If he's the guy for you, he will wait for when you are ready. Stay away from the people who want to give you a hard time about this. And don't tell anyone else about it. If they don't know, they can't say it's weird.
2007-04-12 14:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a unfortunate even for you. It's not technically going against any immoral behaviors since it's not incest, but because you also now stepsister and stepbrother you will most likely get ridiculed by the general population because that is out of the social norm. to be in love with a stepbrother or sister. No one also knows that he wasn't your stepbrother when you started dating. I understand your position after you explained it and think it's OK. The problem is everyone you come in contact with will have to be explained why you are in love with your stepbrother. Good Luck with that!
2007-04-12 03:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by sg300c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just go with the flow. You two might be step brother and sister but you are not caring the same blood. If you love each other than go for it and get married and don't listen to what other people may say. Good Luck and God Bless to you and your loved ones... :o)
2007-04-12 03:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by mysteryousmtz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do anything differetn that is for sure. Follow your heart, it makes no difference what others think - if your parents don't have a problem with it no one else should. I can't imagine them having a problem with it. Have they always known about the two of you? If not now would be a good time to tell them, they may feel funny about it at first but they will get over it. Don't let others make you feel any differetn about it, you now the truth and your feelings. Best of luck to you!
2007-04-12 04:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just say I met my guy first.
If I'd say anything at all, not everyone has to know your business. Any one who needs to know, friends and family for instance, already knows.
If anyone else persists and is rude enough to say something to you just point out that you introduced your mother and her husband. Don't call him your stepfather, because people like that will zero in on the father part, and overlook the step.
You aren't related by blood so theres no reason not to marry, and nosy people are nosy enough without being told your life story.
2007-04-12 03:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your are not blood relatives there is no reason why you shouldn't get married if that's what you both want to do. If this is a true love relationship, don't worry about what other people think. It's your life and you have the right to be happy.
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2016-12-29 04:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, that is a tough one......
Well, technicaly you're not blood relatives. Feelings are feelings. But, do be very carefull. If theparents are married, and you two are seeing each other, as soon as one couple argues, or perhaps splits up, it will affect the other relationship as well......other than that, go for it! Life's too short to pass up happiness......who cares what people think. They should be judging anyway
2007-04-12 03:57:50 · answer #9 · answered by Chris R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no blood line, so from a genetic standpoint, you have nothing to fear.
Your parents are understanding, so you have their support.
Love.....it's all that matters, if you love him, and he loves you, that's all that matters, more than half the great loves of all time were pretty messed up, judged by others, and seen as inapproiate. People are too stuck on their preception of the title "step-brother"
2007-04-12 03:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋