Me and my ex were together for 3 years and she has a son, Who isnt really my son but i have been in his life since he was born and he calls me Daddy and his real dad isnt a part of his life. And me and my ex broke up about a few months ago and she still lets her son know im daddy and she even lets me keep him every now and then. I still and always will love my ex and we even sometimes still tell each other i love u, but it can be hard sometimes but i love and care for her son and i dont want to lose him. Even though me and my ex are on good terms, I still sometimes think of us getting back together for the sake of this little boy. What do u think i should do, every one is always telling me to let her go and move on but i just cant abandon this little boy who looks at me as his dad.
2007-04-12 03:40:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I tip my hat to you for still wanting to be in this child's life even though your not the bio. Dad, but the old saying any man can be a Father, but it takes someone special to be a Dad. Don't listen to your friends, this boy thinks you are is his Dad, so for his sake don't abandon him. Do I believe you and the ex should get back together, only you and she knows whether you love each other enough to make it work. You don't want to yo yo around with this relationship. one month together and get next not month together. It confuses to a child. It never works out to just back together for a child.
2007-04-12 04:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get back together for the sake of the child, but remain as the father figure in his life. You are doing an awesome job, by just doing that. You are not abandoning him. If you two decide to get back together, because you see that splitting up was a mistake and you still love each other, then that's great, but if you put it in your head that it's for the child, that might bring resentment later on.
2007-04-12 10:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you need to make any decisions now, as to your relationship as a couple. But, I think it's wonderful that she's allowing you to remain in her child's life. Let her know how much you appreciate that & respect her for making that great decision for her son. And, don't mess it up, keep on doing everything you can for that child.
If it's possible, can you start thinking of her as a really good friend, one that you wish well for, but that you recognize you can't have a romantic relationship with - that the two of you together don't work as a romance and that, if you *really* love each other, you'll want each other to find true romance that works well in your lives.
2007-04-12 10:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Woooow, I am amazed, u r a dream man!
Many single moms stay single because they can't find someone loving their children as their own.
She's a lucky woman!
I think u have to try one more time. If u still say each other " I love u", means there is still something between u. Why not to try?
Just tell her to try all over again and let her know the kind thoughts u have about her and her son.
Good luck to u!
2007-04-12 10:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by Panther 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your ex are still saying "I love you" to each other, maybe there's still hope.
Have you tried counseling to work on whatever it was that ended the relationship? Talk to her about how you feel and that you'd like to give it another try...not just for the child, but for you and her!
Good luck!
2007-04-12 10:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a good man....if you both love each other, why break up? why not work it all out? It can be done you know. Whatever happens, don't ever abandon your son.....for both of your sakes....
2007-04-12 10:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have step children too and i also know how it would feel to lose them. yes if you stay split she can eventually keep him from you, but it sounds like she wants for you to stay in his life. try counseling if you are both agreeable, if not and you feel its over, try to keep up regula visitation with him..what a lucky boy
2007-04-12 10:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by debbie v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋