I want revenge on my father in law, please read the details before answering?

Question

my father in law is a decent man, he has a good sence of humor most of the time, he is extreamly gifted, (he has built his own house) encredably smart, border-line Genius, but only when it comes to facts... He has a very nerrow perseption of life, beliving that my life should be lived the way HE wants it to be lived, he doesn't listen to advice, instead gives his own at every opertunity.. did I mention he's a know- it- all? but not your average know it all, an EXTREAME know it all. he thinks he knows everything... and he assumes things when he doesn't know. he ALWAYS has to be right... but suprisingly he is right about 90% of the time..the times he is wrong is usually when opinions are a factor in what the discution is about.

the thing that bugs me about him is he makes fun of my shortcommings... which I am open and honest about... I KNOW that I am bad at math.. I KNOW that I wouldn't survive long in the woods alone.. etc. and I don't care.. I HATE it that he has to make fun of it.

How can I take revenge on him without hurting him or killing him.. I just want to prove to him that I don't HAVE to be like him, and I don't care about everything he says.

what part of revenge don't you people understand? If I wanted a lecuture on how to get along with my family I would probably ask something like this "how can I get along with my family?"

duhhhhhh.. I asked for an idea on how to exeact revenge on someone who buggs the hell outa me. if I wanted to work it out I would ask differntly.. and apperntly I spell better than you read, maggie3

can it be that only 2 people really know what I am talking about?

Answer 1

The next time he picks on you, say, "Well at least I don't have to compensate for a short penis by belittling other people. My penis is huge - and I'm nailing your daughter with it."

Betcha he doesn't have a response to that.

Answer 2

Why don't you try to find something that you're good at, something that only you can do, an interest of your own and not his. I know that everyone has "their thing" which is something that they're into. Maybe something in school? Whatever it may be, be the best at it. I know what you mean about not being good in math, but rather than just sitting back and not trying, I signed up for a class so that I can be good, to show myself that I can do anything as long as I apply myself.

Don't wast your time trying to prove anything or waste your energy on revenge for anyone because you'll never please them, you'll burn yourself out trying. Instead do this for you, prove to yourself that you can do something, you have talents that you haven't tapped into, I know you have it in you.

Also don't let him get to you when he starts, he may be a really smart person, but it sounds like he's lacking a few things, rather than always trying to be the man, he should put that a side and be a real man and try to encourage you, to teach you what he knows and to be patient with you, not everyone grows up the same and we go through different experiences which shape us into the people we are, and he's not looking at that, because he seems to only think about himself. He should know that we all need to learn our own way on our own time and what we like, not what he thinks is the best way.

So I'm telling that you are smart, you have talent, and the only reason you're not "good" at anything is because you haven't learned how to do it yet.

You can do anything....

Answer 3

If he is in fact a "know it all" there is nothing you can do to change his opinions. You have to change your attitude...in that you have to have confidence in yourself and your abilities. No one is good at everything and even if you couldn't survive in the woods (if you had to you probably would...maybe not well...but you'd probably make it) you can do other things I'm sure. Don't be intimidated by his intellect...he very obviously is lacking in personality and people skills...you have mentioned this...so...does that make him perfect? No....you already have one up on him. Be confident in your own abilities and don't worry about what others think, especially someone who seems like they have a few insecurities of their own...(he must, otherwise he wouldn't be pointing out your shortcomings). On the other hand it just may be his way of being "friendly". From what you have said he may not have good "people" skills and not understand that what he says affects you in the way it does. Try to work on your attitude rather than revenge or one-up man-ship.

Answer 4

Revenge is not the answer. Apparently he has found the button that irritates you to the max. When he again pokes fun at your shortcomings, tell him he's right - then laugh it off instead of being defensive. Even if he doesn't stop - it doesn't matter if you don't let it bother you. Chin up, walk tall, and consider the source!

Answer 5

I suggest you don't be too affected by it and don't show him because that's only going to make things worse. When he makes fun of you, just keep quiet and don't mind him. Show him you have your own life and you like it the way it is. Yeah, he's great and all but that doesn't mean you can't be great in your own way. Reach for the stars and prove to him that you can achieve something without his help. Don't be afraid to oppose him or debate with him. Speak your mind and let him know what's on your mind. ü

Answer 6

Your wife is what's missing in this story. Is she a daddy's Girl or does she love you and doesn't like it when he runs you down? She is at fault if she lets him make you feel bad because she is the reason you are with him in the first place.
Your life with him sounds like hell. You cannot change him though, that much I know. You are going to have to be yourself and keep taking it or just get up and walk off. Walking off would certainly tip the scales and might work but your wife has to be on your side. (It's terrible when in-laws mess with your marriage.)

Answer 7

I read it, too. You just need to focus on your strengths. It sounds like you need better self-esteem so you can shrug off his teasing. What are you good at? There must be something that you are better at than him. You don't need revenge, just a way to deal with it. Live well, be happy.

BTW, have you seen Meet the Parents? and Meet the Fockers? you just summed up the movie.

Answer 8

Although he may be intelligent he appears to lack some social graces and skills. Making fun of another is not a sign of intelligence it is a sign of low self esteem and immaturity. Each time that he does that he shows himself to be the lesser individual.

It would be easy for you to make fun of him but that would only lower yourself to his level. You already have him beat so revenge is not necessary!

Answer 9

Maybe he likes you just fine as a person, but he wants to make sure his daughter is being taken care of. It sounds to me like he has done well in his life as far as him being self motivated to learn new things and apply them to his world to better his life.
Some people's sense of humor and sense of self are unusual, but I think that he may see a lot of potential in you, and in his own weird way, trying to motivate you to tap into your potential skills.
Either that, or maybe he is uncomfortable with being replaced in his daughter's life as "the provider" and it may take some time for him to be "ok" with change. (Then again, don't know how long ya'll have been together/married)
Just shrug off his need to constantly feel better about himself, after time, he will see that you are above the petty "I'm better than you are, because...." additude, and eventually grow the hell up.
Meanwhile, talk with your wife about how her father's behavior is upsetting, and that you like him just fine, and you love her family, but this behavior may cause you to shy away from family events to avoid these situations. She may choose to speak with her father and tell him to chill. My parents hate when their children tell it like it is, especially when it comes to their behavior...they are imbarrased at themselves for acting a fool.
Don't seek revenge, seek the higer road.
Good luck to you.

Answer 10

I have a mother in law like that but she is not very smart and she hasn't accomplished anything in her life. We don't even speak. But my babbling about my own prob. doesn't help you. Tell your wife that she needs to tell him to lay off. Not everyone has had the same advantage as he did so get over it that's what makes us so different!