To stay in a relationship only for the sake of the children?..... or is it better to leave?..... this is just a question mind you, i'm just curious why some people stay together in my opinion, it does the children no favours if two warring parents stay together..... but let me know your views on this?
2007-04-12 02:44:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
As a teenager I married someone I didn't love because I found myself pregnant with his kid. It was the biggest mistake of my life.
The marriage did not last long, but the length of time it did last were hands down the most miserable months of my life. I married him because I thought my daughter deserved to have a dad in her life. After the first couple weeks of marriage, it dawned on me that just because we were married and living together didn't mean he was gonna be a daddy to her.
The marriage ended and I met my current husband who has been an excellent father to her. He adopted her when she was two and she now has a healthier environment to live out her childhood in and a baby sister to be her friend.
Happy parents make happy children.
2007-04-12 02:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by RING GIRL II 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In the long run it can never be best to stay for the children. Children are a lot smarter than you think regardless of the age. My parents were married for 16 years and I knew that they were unhappy and it made my childhood unhappy. My views on relationships and marriage have been affected greatly. I would never get married due to this. I have seen my friends go through this as well. They married young and tried to stay together for the children, but realized it was doing more harm then good. It is better to split and yet still work together to raise the kids. You have your space instead of being in each others face all the time. You can work through it better. . .just my opinion :)
2007-04-12 09:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
To bad people don't think of this first, An to bad that to day it's all about your happiness, feeling,wants instead of what is best for the family. If Their is beating, someone should go, but we all have everyday conflict an it is a parents duty to teach there children to resolve them in a thoughtful manner, instead fight&flight, All of life is give and take. Childern learn what they see, when things get tuff cut an run or stay learn for the better life of the family
2007-04-12 10:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by play dough 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave, you don't want the children to think it's their fault that mom and dad stayed together and were unhappy because of them! Plus kid know when somethings not right they are a lot smarter then adults give them credit for.
2007-04-12 09:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by ktychaos13 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does the children no favors to have to separated warring parents either. Separation and divorce does not bring peace for the child.
2007-04-12 13:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lady M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stayed for many years because I thought I had no options. But the past ten years without him have been heavenly for me, and with me happier, I think my kids flourished too. They see him regularly, and he's happier too, now that he has someone taking care of him. He has this fear of being alone. I have no way of actually knowing, but I do think my kids are happier now than if their dad and I had stayed together.
2007-04-12 09:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not ok, and it just makes it worse for the children involved. This is akin to people who's only purpose for having kids is to"save" a marriage. Talk about selfish, I want to smack people like that right upside the head. Children that are reared in environments like this often end up being involved in drama filled relationships.
**Exellent question dear.
2007-04-12 09:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
it's actuakky better for the children if they separate rather than live with the strife of two people living together who can't get along
2007-04-12 10:23:05 · answer #8 · answered by Nash Wolfe 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
generally, two incompatible, bitter, fighting parents are worse than a single, attentive, loving one.
the former is what i grew up with all my life, through a series of step-fathers.
2007-04-12 09:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend and her parents always fight. She said she would rahter have them get divorced then always fight.
2007-04-12 09:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋