I know this guy who is married and has been for 8 years. He was a virgin when he got married his wife had experience. Well he has told me that he loves his wife very much but he can't bare the thought of going to his grave never having slept with another girl. Should I help him out. He is extremely attractive and affectionate. I already know some of you ladies are going to fly off the handle so just move on. I want to help this out! So please don't be hating on me
2007-04-12 01:24:52 · 27 answers · asked by Linda b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A little more details. His wife is much older than him and he started dating her at when he was twenty and she was 33. I actually believe his story.
2007-04-12 01:50:09 · update #1
GROW UP! ........I know you won't, but I had to say it anyway.....you are ignorant.
Oh boo hoo for him. Who cares if he was a virgin when he got married. That is the way it is supposed to be. He is the one that got married before he had a chance to experience another woman, if you believe him, and I don't. But even if it's true so what. He said "I take this woman, to have and to hold, forsaking all others, until death do we part," didn't he?
And you are acting like it would be such a sacrifice for you. You are such a good, honest, and generous person aren't you? I'm sure his wife would appreciate the favor. He's lying to you to get a piece of @ss and you are buying it hook, line, and sinker, because you want an excuse to make it OK so you can be at peace with yourself after you sleep with a married man. Well it's not OK. I hope someday you get married and he cheats on you, then you will know what it's all about. You are a poor example of a real woman anyway. Real women can find their own men, they don't want someone elses sloppy seconds.
2007-04-12 01:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let's pretend you were married to a man who was a virgin until you both got married and he wants to bang some other chick because he doesn't want to go through life only having one sexual partner. Would you feel sorry for him then?
This man is whining and it's sad that you're actually buying this crap. If he loves his wife he won't consciously try to find a woman to **** AND if he wants to have sex with somebody else, he needs to leave the lady he is with right now.
Seriously, don't do it. She did nothing wrong to him and it doesn't matter if she finds out or not, it's the simple fact -- she doesn't deserve to be cheated on.
I hope you make the right decision.
2007-04-12 09:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by who?what?when 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think his wife would think it was a big deal and not only that
Honey its a line - I have several friends male & female that have played the " I need more experience or I am a virgin" card when it was total nonsense. I knew a girl who "lost her virginity" to 12 different men - she busted that one out whenever she wanted to hook up w some guy and it worked every time.
You are being played ;)
2007-04-12 08:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well lets see... this question assumes that NOTHING will happen after you "do it". Anyone out there knows that this is not true... something happens... Maybe you should ask his wife her thoughts on it.
You are making yourself sound like someone who would fall for the "I am shipping out tomorrow" routine just so the guy could get lucky tonight. or the "I have a terminal illness and my only wish was to get lucky with a redhead/brunette/blonde before I die"
Think about this... If this guy is any kind of friend you should NOT do it... simply because that will then be GONE and you cannot go back to "they way it was".
also his wife is bound to find out and now you caused his marriage to go south too. guess who will be camping at your door for support if that happens...
2007-04-12 08:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unlike most of the people who has responded to you thus far I am not going to get on a soap box and preach! Just try to determine if you are doing this for the right reasons. I would suggest you tell this man to talk it over with his wife if he feels like he is missing out. Also tell him that it is all basically the same. Different people just bring a different energy to it.
2007-04-12 09:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask his wife if it would be a big deal. Seriously. She may think, "Well, if he can get this out of his system, maybe it's worth it." Marriage is like a contract; anything to which both parties in a contract agree modifies the contract. However, if she says no, or if you are too chicken to ask her, don't sneak and help this man cheat.
2007-04-12 08:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well it's pretty obvious what's in it for him. But what's in it for you? Make sure you're OK with being the other woman. I'm not going to tell you it's right or wrong. That's up to you. I will tell you that I find his story hard to buy. A 27 year old virgin when he got married and now he suddenly wants to expand his horizons eight years on? I'm so not buying that...
2007-04-12 08:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a naive idiot...but hey, thats just me.
Besides, you say he is attractive???/ How is it that an attractive man actually only had ONE sex partner??? Something doesn't seem right with his "story"...trust me on this....and finally, if he is willing to LIE and CHEAT on his WIFE, what makes you THINK he is telling YOU the truth?????
And no, I am not married, but I am not stupid, either!
2007-04-12 09:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's married, leave him alone, how would you feel if your husband was sleeping with another woman "just so he knows what it's like to sleep with another woman" get a grip and find a single man. I bet you he has played this card before to get another gullible female in to bed. He sounds like a predator, run fast before he hurts both you and his wife. And honestly, do you really want to sleep with a man who is already sleeping with someone else? Yuck, where is your self respect?
2007-04-12 08:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it would be a big deal. You would be helping a man betray promises that he has made to his family and friends. You would be guilty in that betrayal, too, because you knew he was married. There are many attractive, affectionate men who are not married you can sleep with to your hearts delight, go play with them. This man is trying to use you, and you are worth more than that.
2007-04-12 08:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by Joshua S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋