I'm 26 muslim girl. i met someone a year ago. i loved him soooooo much and eventually made love with him. it was the first time i ever kiss a boy. he wasn't honest with me and lied a lot. he never intended to engage. we split a month ago. i don't wanna lie to the one i will marry. i'll tell him the truth come what may. my mistake was that i loved someone who didn't deserve it. do u muslim guys accept to marry a non virgin girl?!! do u forgive that?!
2007-04-11 21:32:27 · 7 answers · asked by Steph 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
In islam it's a sinner my friend. and religion isn't something to be up dated. it is made of facts that doesn't change with time.
2007-04-11 21:59:03 · update #1
Allah is forgiving and this is between you and Him and once you ask forgiveness with full faith.........I m 100% sure that He will accept it.......And telling you when He loves you then who are the others to hate you??
".......if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all)"
Hey listen....... i wish you all the luck....A good open minded guy with true light of islam would definitely accept you and would be proud of you !!ummm telling you one thing......if you ask forgiveness and are loyal to your man, and would remain like this forever , i think there is no need of telling him this... as i remeber a story that once a person came to Muhammad for asking about a woman whom he wanted to marry....That women has done something wrong before but had asked repentence, Muhammd(pbuh) told that man that its good to marry her.....When he left , the other person asked muhammad why didn't you tell him about her sin?? Muhammad(pbuh) said "when Allah wanted to conceal her sin and has forgiven her who am i to punish her for that"
just talking about social attitude especialy when you are living in east(things are totally different in west becuase virginity does not matter ther much) ,you have to sort it out according to the human behaviour...if you are in east then this thing sometime may pinch the husband .........and satan is always there,he might say something about this...umm just talking about a possibility ! If you are satisfied and know that you are forgiven by Allah, just forget it forever.......humen are meant to do mistakes and ther is always a door open for repentence and once you are through it, just relax and only look at Allah for your help
All the best ! my wishes are with you Sis !
2007-04-11 23:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by ★Roshni★ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sympathy is battling with my rage here. I understand your predicament, but at the same time it's hard not to feel disgusted that you would tolerate such a situation.
Would you really want to join your life to somebody who thinks that your virginity is so important? Would this person only love you for your hymen!? Is it OK if he's not a virgin?
Two centuries ago the situation you're talking about was common in the West, but thankfully we've mostly become a little more civilised since then. It's a shock to see someone feeling so guilty and miserable over such a non-event.
If this is so important to you, and so important to the men you encounter, then you really have to get it out in the open as you say. If someone won't marry you just because you're not a virgin, I don't think *you* should want to marry such a small-minded, backward, intolerant razzhole yourself. You should be worth more than your virginity - you're not a set of walking genitals. Find a man who really loves you!
2007-04-12 04:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by Super Atheist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
virginity is a cultrul problem and varies, An American Muslim will find you weired if you're still virgin for example. However, if your country values this piece of human tissue for no reason - as mine - I advice you to repent to God; and then Go through a "Re-" surgery to regain your virginity. You wont lie to your future husband. He didn't ask, you didn't say. otherwise your life will be ruined and he'll doubt your behaviour every moment, plus, it'll be a dark point in ur life he might recall in your arguments.
For me, It's ok.. Chastity of a woman is not a piece of tissue, it's a virtue.. Sometimes when the Hymen is removed by the Husband, he can't even recognize it, if the wife came at the same time.. Her come will be purple, that's it. a woman may loose it accidently, so, for me, it's no problem.. for those who avoid the teachings of the religion and insist on it; I already told you the opinion of many Jusrists today including the enlightened Mufti of Egypt.
2007-04-12 04:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lawrence of Arabia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know any virgin women. There are girls that I think are virgin, but no women. I'm not saying that there aren't any, it's just that I don't know any.
Don't worry, in the USA that is the norm. Muslim men might not like it, but this Christian man thinks that you are okay.
Okay? ( :
2007-04-12 04:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not Muslim, but if I loved you, I wouldn't care about your past. The future is where its at.
2007-04-12 04:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
ur mistaken,that was not love just physical attraction,since true love never dies like u have experienced,better forget it like a bad dream and live with the present moments,be positive ,yr allah knows u better.
2007-04-12 04:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd prefer the girl has some experiance.
2007-04-12 04:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋