I am really shy when It comes to talking to women. It mostly stems from my early childhood and being bullied in school, and my self confidence being stripped away by kids and my father. Which now I am in therapy and taking medicine for. When I talk to women I get very nervous, I stutter, and get nausious. What can I do?
2007-04-11 21:08:12 · 5 answers · asked by ibyt2692 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im 28 and a little to old to be writting h/s love letters. When I go to clubs I feel like a loser because all the guys look and act cooler than me. And for some reason women always go for the total a**holes, which I most certainly am not.
2007-04-11 21:23:01 · update #1
The best ones do not go for the assholes. I don't mean celebrities, just those who will be the best for you.
I'm an opposite: very shy female. I think you should first sort out whether you want them to notice you. If women flocked around you all the time, doesn't that contradict with your shyness and make you suffocated?
Use your personality. Anyone who can't see past your appearance isn't worth going out with. Do special things like notice tiny things about them, especially if you like the person. Do those things for your friends too, they may put in a good word for you unconsciously when talking to women.
You should observe first, then make your choice on talking to them. Hope the medication helps.
Good luck!
2007-04-11 21:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ariel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. When I finally do get the nerve to speak up I always screw everything up and come off looking like an asshole and she never wants to talk to me again.
You're not meeting the right women.
2007-04-12 04:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by dt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you see a girl that you would like to date. Send her a note. Tell her something like this--"I have noticed what a nice person you are, and would enjoy taking you out to dinner Friday night. If you are not attached, and would like to join me please give me a call at ____________.(your phone number) If she calls it will boost your ego, and you will feel more confident. If she doesn't call, try it on every girl you are interested in. One of them will respond, eventually. Then you will know that she is interested in you also.
2007-04-12 04:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing.. Be yourself.. Women have soft spot for shy guys.. So, capitalize on this
2007-04-12 04:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go gay and you'll never go back
2007-04-12 04:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋