I just broke up with my bf but I still talk to him. He put me through a lot when we were together. I still love him and he says he has changed but I dont believe him. As u can tell trust was an issue. We dated for 16 months. I want to be with but I dont know if I can put what he did to me in the past. Should we work it out, stay friends or stay out of his life completely?
2007-04-11 20:40:56 · 18 answers · asked by Goobergirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you still Love him i recommend try and work it out but make it clear to him if he hasn't changed it's over and there will be no other chances. that's what my gf did to me and it worked
2007-04-11 20:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by cripplercar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found people rarely change when you are talking about morality and character after adolescence.Cheatas don't loose there spots.If you have to ask if you should trust him again you already know the real answer.If you truly value his friendship simply be a friend who has been lied to in the past possibly the forgiving type of friend with low expectations. And for now little more without earned trust over time.
2007-04-12 03:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by dylanwtf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try being friends and see where that goes and if you feel you two can get back together and be happy then give him one more chance and if you dont think it will work out then stay friends but if you cant stay friends then i would move on... Good luck girl...
2007-04-12 03:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel he's really hurt you, then cut him off completely. Remove any trace of him in your life. You don't believe he's changed. Is he a womanizer? Does that irritate you? Try to see if he's really changed. Try to prove yourself wrong. If you were right in the first place, then just leave him alone. Go on with your life. There's plenty more men out there.
2007-04-12 03:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by Choppinsumwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly look at what he put you through and simply ask your self Am I better with him or with out him.On a piece of paper write down everything good about this person in one column .Next make another list of everything that is bad about him.Take a long hard honest look at it.Then think how it felt the good column then the bad column.Did he treat you with love and respect did he consider your feelings.Now decide then do not look back
2007-04-12 03:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by chameleon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay friends!
Because you don't want to make the same mistake again!
He probably feels the same as you right now so just try to be friendly and chat like friends!
Go out and join clubs to meet new people!
Maybe you will find "The One" there, someone who shares your interests!
2007-04-12 03:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes love isn't enough to stay to gether.If you think you can put what he did behind you then go for it,but if you do this you will never forget nor trust him.As far as him changing it isn't going to happen.You no he would tell you anything he thinks you want to hear in order toget you back.
2007-04-12 03:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friends and see if he convinces u enough by action that he's changed, mere saying that he's changed is not enough to regain trust, so give him a chance but stay on guard, dont be kind to him , be kind only if ur convinced he deserves it.
2007-04-12 03:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends entirely up to you.. You can give him another chance, but there's no guarentee you can forget what happened.. Remain as friends is a good idea, but normally remaining good friends with your ex will bring out old memories of good and bad and you will be more emotionally attached to him.
If I were you, I will go on with my life without this ex...
2007-04-12 03:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lloks like there is a major problem here, although you seem to love him and want to be with him your head is telling you to stay clear.
in this case i would go with your head, you obviously have a lot of problems and to go back would be a bad thing to do, you need to make a fresh start and move on from this guy, there is too much history to make it work
2007-04-12 03:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋