2007-04-11 20:32:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Only when you make them feel your respect.
Because nowadays children are not stupid.
A beating is A ****. Remember.
2007-04-11 20:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Q10 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got some great answers already about being a role model, explaining things and such. The piece that I think is missing is the structure of boundaries. They need to have the same boundaries each day. If they can say something one day and nothing happens, then get punished the next, it's confusing. So be clear about your expectations.
If the child is very young, they need to have things explained because they don't have the life experience to know better yet. Explain without anger to a young child because they want to please you. If they're irrational, then they're tired or hungry. If they tantrum, NEVER give in. I taught my kids "if you tantrum, the answer is automatically 'no', so if you want a chance at negotiating, don't go there."
I recommend "1,2,3 Magic" for kids under 12. The book or DVD will teach parents (simply and with humor) a good technique for setting boundaries.
All the best!
2007-04-12 03:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by Aunt Laya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a child grows up being shown respect and seeing respect they will soon begin to understand and show respect themselves it is harder these days with all the junk on TV ect
2007-04-15 11:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by kaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beating a child - as suggested by someone who so obviously doesn`t have kids, and hopefully never will - will not teach him respect. It will teach him to be disrespectful, disobedient, abusive, and self destructive. A beaten child can grow up to beat his/her children, and so the cycle continues - hence the message about beating earlier
( no doubt beaten as a child, growing up to wreak havoc on the world as their own personal revenge) If you respect your children, they will respect not only you, but others too. Watch children interact with their parents when you are out. The child who`s parents talk to him and explain things, and take the time to listen to the child`s opinion/point of view, and respect it, will have a calm child who listens to others and respects their wishes, and grow up into a well balanced adult who will do well in life. The abusive parent who shouts/hits the child will have the disruptive and disrespectful child who grows up to disrespect, and possibly abuse others, and their own children - sometimes other people`s children too. All you have to do is watch the interaction - it speaks for itself.
2007-04-12 03:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by yahoobloo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well with my kids i always explain if i need to tell them off so they understand what and why they were told off for, it helps them work out for themselves what is right and what is wrong and they learn from it, if i havean off day and im moody i tell them its not their fault that im not well or upset or what ever the reason is, but i always explain in a child friendly way that they make sence of. I have found that explaining my actions makes them understand me and that has grown in to respect.They think before they say or act , i respet them and they respect me. Treat others in a way you yourself would want to be treated , this is how i explain respect to my kids.
2007-04-12 03:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by ☆♥ Tinkz Baby! ♥☆ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One way is to show the child respect to teach him or her self-respect.
I personally believe that respect for others grows largely out of self-respect and you really want the child to do both.
If the child lies or does something wrong, tell him or her that makes it harder for you to respect them. When they recognize respect is something good and desirable they will want it and they will learn that it must also be given to others.
2007-04-12 03:43:49 · answer #6 · answered by Warren D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply show them respect. You get it for giving it. I learned that when I was 5, and now I'm a mom of three wonderful girls 3,5,and 6. And no matter how my girls outfits look (seasonal appropriate) I let them choose them. because I respect their choice. And it makes them more independent at the same time, plus I don't have to dress three children at 5am for school and daycare.
2007-04-12 03:51:26 · answer #7 · answered by bluedawn_c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it for example act up or so,do the time out thing.
Punish the child for every time it does something it isn't supposed to do.
Reward the child every time is does something good,but make it work/strive for it.
If it makes good grades/brings home a A,I'd make my baby's favorite dish,take him/her to the movies or let him/her go with some friends to the movies.
Depending on the age of course.
Take him/her shopping or so.
Every family has a different way to raise their child(ren),you'll figure out what works for you and yours.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-04-12 03:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the age. Kids under 5 , youre not going to be able to explain respect. Thats when disciplining them has to come in. It's not teaching them respect so much as getting their attn and letting them know you mean business.
2007-04-12 03:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by thetruthteller 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you respect a child and that child will respect you
2007-04-15 19:58:56 · answer #10 · answered by ruthie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to show the child repsect first....explain to the child that saying please, and thank you is respectful, as well as polite, and that they should do use their manners to everyone....offering to help people is a sign of respect, being patient with someone, there are all kinds of things that can be repectful....you need to explain that to the child, and also explain, that wanting and making demands are disrepectful and not nice....but remember to be repectful to the child as well.....respect is often earnt
2007-04-12 03:39:11 · answer #11 · answered by deni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋