If you just started a relationship, and it's going okay, not spectacular, but not bad. Then out of the blue, someone you hadn't heard from in 6 years leaves you a message with her number.
The girl in question is someone Ihadn't spoken to in 6 years because of an argument, but prior to that, I had known her since grade 1, I am now 25. We found out during my last year in highschool that we both had feelings for each other for a long time, and we were really close, but we talked and decided not to do anything because we were going out with other people. We got into an argument because she wanted me to go the same university with her, but I choose to go elsewhere, she said I was abandoning her and that I didn't love her...I was upset she said that, and hadn't talked since.
I know nothing about her now, except that she's a model and a grad student...but I use to think about her, and use to wonder what if.....so now I feel like this is a second chance....what would you do?
2007-04-11 19:50:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
while you are in a relationship see where that will head. Keep in touch with the old friend and if the current relationship fails on its own merits, then you can seriously explore a relationship with the old flame.
When I started going out with the guy who is now my husband he was in a silghtly similar situation. He chose me and is glad he did. While his old friend and I didn't get a long for a while we are now all good friends.
2007-04-11 19:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would meet the old flame for lunch. A. You need to know if she has an agenda B. this will answer some of the "what if " stuff and C. You really never know when life might give you a first chance let alone a second one. But...consider the risks to the existing relationship. You could lose both entirely. Is the risk of finding out if you "might " have an opportunity to have something with the old flame worth giving up the new girl? But whatever you do. Tell the girls...don't play them, that would be cruel.
2007-04-12 03:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship you are in is ok, but not spectacular, !! is that the way you want to live your life, ok, but not spectacular, if you are with the right person every minute should be spectacular, your crazy if you would just settle for ok, ring your ex, talk to her theres no harm in that, see how she is, she might just want to catch up and see how you are she might have a boyfriend or something, it it was me id ring her,
2007-04-12 02:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by mumma_of_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man.. She has lived a life in the last 6 years.. As have you.. Do you really want to go there?? Leave her be! Just be friends and let life move on..
2007-04-12 02:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue being friends with her.
2007-04-12 02:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are going to different colleges just break it off.... if she still wants to do something after your done then go for it.... otherwise just enjoy the time in college...
2007-04-12 02:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by pro_steering_wheel_holder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well man you know you want to so go ahead try her to find out whats going on. then you will know what to do.GO FOR IT
2007-04-12 02:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that you still love her so just follow your heart..... don't be scared to hurt someone, because in love you can never avoid to hurt somebody and be hurt, just be true to yourself.......
Good luck!!!!!!!!
2007-04-12 02:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by JOY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell your current girlfriend and do it.
2007-04-12 02:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by matt d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋