is it common to have step mom as matron/maid of honor?

Question

step sons fiance asked me to be her maid/matron of honor... is this normal... what do i do? what do i say for a speech?

Answer 1

Sure, why not? If his Mom is doing the Mother of the groom honors, you could help out he bride, if you want. Maybe since she is doing that duty, they wanted to find something to make you a part of the ceremony.
How nice step son and bride want to include you. No, it is not "normal", but in these times where almost anything goes, it is OK. If it were me, I would rather have an adult as a bridesmaid/matron of honor than a younger, potentially flighty, not very responsible younger person, at least your job might get done.
You do what the bridesmaid/matron of honor normally does. You wear a dress that coordinates with the wedding, you show up for all the events, or as many as possible, you might help with or give the bridal shower, you help the bride however you can, as budget and time allows. You might be asked to help pick out a wedding dress, stuff gift bags for guests, help with seating charts or place cards, any number of things.
What do you say at a toast? Short and sweet and to the point. You wish them well in their new life together as man and wife, you wish them all the joy and happiness life can bring, you are so glad your stepson found such a beautiful bride, you were so honored to serve as matron of honor/bridesmaid. If you want to inject a little humor at your expense, invite the couple to come to you for advice, you are after all the stepmom, you could probably be counted on to give it, if one believes in stereotypes!
Check with the best man, so you do not say the same things exactly, and if you must, just say, and I want to echo something that Mark, the best man said... "
There are sights online that give sample speechs, I'd check those out, if you want to say something special.
It is a good time to get to know the bride, and your stepson better. Invite them over, or out to dinner, just for food and talk. Maybe even have the best man over, too, to discuss speech writing.
Good luck, congrats to the happy couple.

Answer 2

Nothing is common now a days in weddings. I plan to ask my uncle to walk me down the isle not my father. If you feel close to her, why not? For the speech of course you would want to say exactly how you feel about the couple.

Answer 3

Sure! They can ask whoever they want to be in their wedding party, I'd be honored to do that.

Ask the bride and groom what they want you to do.

Answer 4

it's not common but it's up to the bride and groom. They can do whatever they want. :)