he has a baby with her they not married but they have 10 years living together an he say that he loves me an i love him too what should i do?
2007-04-11 18:49:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if you want the baby, keep, dump him, but make sure he's on the birth certificate so that he has to pay child support. he helped make the baby he sure as hell needs to help support the angel.
2007-04-11 18:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by roansaga 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Dear I hate to burst your bubble, but the baby's father is not leaving his present "wife" for you. You shouldn't have started a relationship with someone who was in a committed relationship. You are in a difficult situation, and you should analyze what you are going to do. If you want to keep this baby, don't count on this guy to acknowledge or support the baby. If he is living with this woman 10 years, it is like a marriage and he is not about to upset his life. Yes, the old story, he loves you..yea give me a break. Of course he tells you that, because he wants sex with you. Don't be so nieve. What I would do is tell him you are keeping the baby and you don't expect him to leave his wife, but you expect him to support the baby. If he tells you to get an abortion, tell him it is out of the question and show him the door. If you have family, call upon them for help if they are open to it, and maybe you should go home if you are on your own. You need help and family support right now. I personally think you should end the relationship and concentrate on the birth of your baby and eventually move on with your life.
2007-04-12 16:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 22:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by porix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, no point in pointing fingers, the damage is done. If you want to keep the baby, you keep it. Its yours! As for the guy, I would embarass the heck outta him. The wife needs to know also. She needs to see what kind of jerk shes married to and who else hes done this to. This is his fault for doing this while having a family. I would go ahead and bring this child into the world and be sure to have him pay for child support!
2007-04-11 19:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by Gina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont expect too much from him, write down your pros and cons, and how a baby would change your life. Are you ready for a baby? If need be, can you support a baby on your own...etc...dont keep the baby thinking he will be with you and leave his wife. Make sure you make a decision that you are comfortable with and can live with for a long time.
2007-04-11 18:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
oh boy, you really shouldn't have gotten with a guy who was in a relationship with another woman. but hey it happened so now what?
you want the baby then you keep the baby. if this guy was smart he would have not messed around. he might care for you but if he is cheating on his girlfriend with you, don't you think he will do the same to you?
deliver your baby, take care of your baby, but don't expect him to be around. file for child support once the baby is born. don't get into a relationship with him.
his girlfriend's baby is your future child's half brother or sister
good luck with everything
2007-04-12 07:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love a guy who cheats on his main woman. What makes you think he won't do that to you, too? If he loved you, he would treat you better, not as something on the side. The biggest favor you could do is give the baby up for adoption, as it sounds like you are too young to be raising a child.
2007-04-11 19:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep the baby. i suggest that you leave him and get on with your life with your child. I know that's so hard to do especially that you love him so much but you have to sacrifice some things for the sake of your baby. You could also seek a lawyer's advice. I hope this helps!
2007-04-11 19:15:29 · answer #8 · answered by RIgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely keep the baby! If you choose not to, this is a decision that could haunt you for the rest of your life. There is a reason why you want to keep it. It's part of you! You have a destiny as this little child's mother.
I think that this man is playing you and he is going to break your heart. Keep his child and wait for the right man to come along who is going to give you his complete heart, not just part of it.
2007-04-11 19:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by Susan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to worry about him, if you want the baby, then have at it... you really should have thought this out a little better though.. what are you doing getting mixed up with someone who is already married?
2007-04-11 22:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by emtb9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look that is your body and your decision whether you want to keep it or not. I suggest if you consider keeping th e baby you make sure you go and get child support from this guy!
2007-04-11 18:54:17 · answer #11 · answered by CHEEKS69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋