Suicide question...plz help. I feel like im a burden to my family and friends. Theyd be better off without me?

Question

Please help me because I think I might be depressed. I cut myself even tho I know that it is wrong but it still seems to help temporarily but after I've done it I feel guilty and only want to do it again. I've thought about suicide. I can't tell my closest friends or parents because they won't understand and my parents will treat me differently possibly even be frowned upon. I feel the only people I can talk to are two male teachers at my school. But I don't want to put the weight of my problems on them. Even if I do they will tell my parents. There r more details to this story and I kno its not as bad as some ppls problems but I can't help feeling this way. I've put my parents thru enough burden already and i don't wish to do that again. I've already tried talking to a school guidance couselor and talking to her didn't really help. I feel more comfortable talking to males i know than females that i do or dont. What should I do? Should I talk to 1 of them? Answers are appreciate

Answer 1

you have so much life ahead of you. suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. please tell someone, your parents, any adult. suicide is also a completely selfish act that will affect your family the rest of their lives. please get help. people love you

Answer 2

Look in your local phone book or go to the website I have enclosed. If you kill yourself you will only be hurting those who love you and they will feel that they have failed you in some way or another. My best friend brother did that and it tore his family apart. The parents blamed each other and for the last 8 years have never been in the same room together. Get some help, please? Take care and I will pray for you.

I hope you read these again because I have something I want to share with you. I am probably old enough to be your grandma. I have been there and thought I was a burden to all but found out that there are those who care about you that you may not know about. My health started failing at the age of 30, disc disease, arthritis just to name a couple, well last March 2006, I found out I had MS (frontal lode, which affects the memory, vision, coordination, speech, ect), I was earning my BA in health care management. I thought this is not going to get me down, well guess what I graduate Summa *** Laud, highest honors. It hasn't rob my mind and I am now in Grad school and I plan to maintain my 3.94 GPA. So you see don't let the little things push you down fight like the dickens, there are others out there worst off then you and TALK to someone now.

Answer 3

Please. Either talk to one of them or set up an appointment with a professional therapist. You should be able to find one if you do some research into your parents' health care plan. Perhaps you could tell one of your male teachers that you are having some symptoms of depression and ask him to help you find a professional therapist. That way, you can get the help you need without the added stigma and without laying your entire load on them. Lots of people go through what you are, feel just the way you do, and can make it through with the right help. Depression is an illness, like having mono or something. It can be treated and it can be cured, and you can get back to feeling the way you used to. There are a lot of reasons why you might feel bad now, but perhaps there is some reason for you to keep living -- afterall, you did ask for help. I am so glad that you did, and it would make my day for this advice to help you out in any way. You don't have to feel alone. Get well soon.

Answer 4

I'm in the same situation. Haha I even pressed back on the browser because I was thinking that I was being selfish, or that people would look down on me for associating with you. I don't know what to say I took meds a few years ago and stopped, but I'm going back on them because I havent really progressed in 5 years. Im 20 now and I want to enjoy my life! I've been turning to God more lately, unconditional giving, wishing the best to every person you meet, it's been lightening me up but I have a lot of work to do. I think you should consider looking at the bigger picture, and what role you can play. Contact me I have a great reading piece and a listening series that I think are amazing. I can send it to you if you wish. Good luck friend.

Answer 5

You are carrying around a heavy load of emotional pain. I want you to know that It is possible to feel better.

It is just your perception that you are a burden to people. A common feeling of someone who is depressed. If you think killing yourself will take that burden away from your friends and family you are defiantly wrong. Suicide causes so much pain in those left behind......you can't even imagine it. Therefor the solution of killing yourself isn't an option if you care about your family and friends. You will be leaving them with pain far beyond whatever pain you are carrying around right now. OK......so we have established that suicide is not an option.

Your best option is to ASK for help. Beg for help if you have to. If you have to take yourself to an ER and beg for help do so.
Fight with everything within you to overcome this depression and turn your world around. When the depression is gone you can reprogram your self -talk and your self worth in to a positive energy that will give you the balance you need in life.

Depression is when the brain chemistry is off kilter. It is like any other illness. It needs to be diagnoised and treated NOW.

Deep Depression (I have been there) isn't easy. The problem with it is that it programs you in a negative way. So, you have to treat it so that you can get your joy , spirit and hope back.

Life is challenging even for the very mentally healthy of persons. Being depressed along with the average challenges of a day is very tough going.

Please get help. Promise me that you will get help. It is possible for you to be dramatically different with medication and couseling.

I am a parent of three kids and yes kids can drag their parents through plenty of crap........but you are their kid and no matter how frustrated they become, they really do love you and really do want you to feel better. I would think that if you sit down with your parents and be totally honest and say.......
"Hey guys I love you. I need to get out of this depression and all the stuff I am going through. I want to be a better me. Please help me get some help" (put it in your own words)

Feel free to messege me or email me.

Answer 6

Honestly, I am a teacher and I think if your two teachers that you are comfortable with knew what you were feeling, they would definatly want to help..I would try talking to them..tell them that you will keep yourself safe (ie no cutting or suicide) until you are ready to tell your parents or others and you would appreciate that they not tell your parents. Perhaps they can refer you to a counselor at another school that is male? Life can be wonderful even though sometimes it feels like the weight of the world is upon us...keep plugging away, things do improve.

Answer 7

to start: you have no idea how many people you will mess up if you kill yourself, and how badly they will be screwed up.
so if you want to cause enormous amounts of pain and sadness, that's what you should do.
Talk to someone you feel comfortable with.
If that's one of your male teachers, talk to them. Okay, maybe they will talk to your parents, but it's okay if people will take your problems seriously.
One other thing: just get over this stuff about "I don't want to burden others." I hear that from people I know and it's annoying. You know why? I *want* to know if people I care about are having problems. Your problems, or even my brother's problems (he has lots) won't ever make me lose sleep, but I want to help any way I can.
I want to know, and I want to be given the chance to help. I'm sure there are people in your life who feel the same way.
Tell people. You're a long way from being a burden right now.
In the future, if you do become a burden, they'll let you know.
One other thing: comparing yourself to someone with bigger problems is not helpful. They're your problems, they're real, and they're important to you. that's all that matters.

Answer 8

Jeez. Life is really giving you a beating. All I can say is that human hope is sometimes all you have, and you have to think that you’re worth more than the guilt’s agony and that someday it will stop and someone will walk into your life who you can talk to and you can simply know that you’re understood. That’s a horrible line to be walking along, but believe me and more importantly YOURSELF that you actually are much better off alive for yourself and your family. Depending on what you’re going through, you could easily be completely isolated with no one around to understand the impact of what is happening. Just don’t let those things overwhelm you! You’re a beautiful mind and a wonderful human being with all the potential imaginable! You can try to find a better counselor, but maybe there isn’t one accessible. You could try talking to your parents and slowly adjusting them to the magnitude, but I know that could be impossible depending on your circumstances. What you need right now is a close friend, best of all. If you’re close to those teachers, maybe they’re what you need most. Whatever you do, KNOW that you are loved and that there ARE people out there hoping for you.

P.S. I don’t know how creepy this sounds, but I think there’s an “Add to Contacts” option if you click on someone’s name on here…if you want to get things out anonymously, I’m always ready to listen. Best of luck, and know you’re loved!

Answer 9

Hi Nat, Please don't be cutting on yourself because it's not going to made you feel better. Sweetie i don't think your parents think you are a burden they love you and wouldn't wish any kind of harm to come of you. It's not good to be thinking of suicide, you need to get that out of your head. One place you can go and it will help you a lot. Go to the nearest mental health and have a one on one counsel sections with a train counselor.You will start to feel better about yourself. You should go at least 2 times a week until the counselor tells you than you are doing a lot better,but if you feel the need always go back. A Friend Who Cares.
Clowmy

Answer 10

You ARE NOT a burden to the ones that you love or who love you! If you have thought about suicide, you need to talk to your family first. Give them the chance to be there for you!
I have had the same thoughts, and wanted to keep my family out of it so as not to burden them. Your problems are as worthy of anyone elses' at this point, turn to your family, give them a chance to help you. My family had no idea what Iwas going through until it was almost too late! I didn't even think they would care. But I didn't give them a chance either.
I got additional help later, but it made me realize that I had more than I thought!

Answer 11

Let me tell you how wonderful and precious you are. Everyday you make someone elses day. Someone notices you and you put a smile on thier face. You are special because you decided to think about your family and friends despite the troubles you feel. You are so special that there is no one else in this world that is like you and we need EVERYONE in this world to make it a special place to live. Imagine if you werent here.......those smiles that you put on other peoples faces would fade.There would be a lot more unhappy people. You make so many more people happy by being here and alive than you would be making happy if you werent here. I can tell you're special and all you have to do is believe it, too. No matter what anybody says, what matters most is what God thinks of you and what you think of yourself. I know He thinks you're special and you have something important to do in this world or else you wouldn't be here. I will praying for you, and remember God is ALWAYS listening if you need to talk.