How do you handle you dad passing away?

Question

My father pasted away at 9:15 2night I cant do anything but cry is this healthy? I cant talk about it to anyone or anything without getting very teary even writing this i wanna cry

Answer 1

That is perfectly normal. You have to grieve. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

I know you cant imagine the tears ever drying but they will. You will feel less pain over it as the months pass. I have heard that it takes a full year for the pain to ease. It is gradual but you will cry each day, then not for a few, then the gap of time will get further apart. Holidays and big events are hard. You are not alone. If you think that it is too much to handle then talk to someone who will listen and has been through it. I have been there and it does get easier. I was daddys little girl and it killed me inside but I am a different person today from the pain of the loss of him. You will be too.

Answer 3

It is very healthy to cry. You are mourning the loss of your father. You won't be able to tell him a funny story or borrow $10 or have him walk you down the aisle when you get married. Yes, it is very sad so cry and cry because you will miss him. Each day you will feel a little less sad and finally there will come a day when you will think of all the fun times you had with him. You will remember everything good and that is how it should be when you lose a parent. God Bless you. My prayers are with you tonight.

Answer 4

First of all I want to say that I am very sorry for your loss. It is extremely difficult to deal with a parent passing away.

I lost my Mom about eight years ago, and my Dad about five years ago, and I am a grown woman with a family and it still is on my mind a great deal of the time.

You are going to spend a lot of time crying, and a lot of time just feeling numb and a bit lost. This is totally normal. I can still find myself tearing up when I see something that my Mom or Dad would have enjoyed, birdhouses or plants for her garden or tools for his workshop.

I have learned with time to realize that they are still a part of me and a part of my life, and I can remember all the great times we had together and all the important things they taught me that I use in my everyday life.

Please talk to your friends and family about your feelings, you can all help and support each other through this difficult time.

I am sending you a big hug and a prayer that you will find peace in knowing that you can still remember your Dad every day, and even though you may be crying in the moment it just shows how much you loved each other and how close you were.

God bless you and your family.

Answer 5

Hey my condolences to you and your family. Dealing with death will never be easy and only time will ease your pain, but you need you cry until you have no tears left and then start a healing process. Your tears are a form of anger,sadness and the feeling of being left. Your angery because your dont understand why it had to be you father, sad becuase you just lost your father and left because you feel as if you have been left because your father is gone. All of the emotions and more need to come out in someway and crying is working best. you eventually need to talk to someone about it so you can start healing. I hope you pain goes away as fast as it came. One more thing dont think that just because your not crying or feeling as sad anymore means you love him less cause it does it just means your helaing and accepting the fact that death is a part of life. I hope that this goes by easily for you and your family. God Bless you and my prayers are with you and your loved ones, you will be ok i promise but deal with this at your own pace. Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

That has got to be tough. You have my sympathy. Losing a loved one is always hard and when they are very close it's even harder. So go ahead and cry. There's nothing wrong with feeling grief. And talk about how you are feeling, that helps. Also, try writing about how you are feeling. Write to yourself, write to the fire fairies and burn what you have written...or keep it and look at what you wrote when you are a little older. Don't forget to remember all the good times, the laughter, the joy, the excitement. Those are the important memories...as well as the times with tears. Be thankful you had the years together that you did have...and enjoy the happy memories. They will last as long as you want them to last.

Answer 7

First of I want to say how sorry Iam about your loss. Yes crying is very healthy and you will probably cry alot more. I lost my Dad years ago and this time ofvthe year always makes me sad because he died in April, but I also remember all the good times and that helps. Once again so sorry for the loss of your Father.

Answer 8

Wow, this is a rough one. I lost my dad when I was 25. It was a long illness ( cancer) and we had 5 years knowing that it was coming and I really thought that I was prepared but didn't want to be there when it came. The evening that it happened I stayed with him and couldn't leave and was with him through the night and was there holding his hand when he took his last breath. I thought that I was a strong man but it totally threw me. I barely remember the funeral or the following days. It annoyed me when people wished us well although I knew they meant well. I wanted people to leave me alone since I felt that they didn't understand. The truth is that there is little anyone can say.
It's been a number of years now and I still celebrate the man who was my father and I'm grateful for the last hours we had alone together and the talks we had.....but I miss him.
Time marches on and you will never get totally better but do you really want to? That would mean forgetting or dulling some of the emotion wouldn't it and there is nothing new coming in to replace that so hold on to it. I'll admit that I have tears running right now thinking of my dad but they aren't so much tears of sadness now but missing him and fondness.

My advice would be to cry if you want to, scream if you want to and get angry if you want to. It's all normal and healthy and I still do at times.
If you are religious and hold the belief think of when you will be together again. This has helped me quite a bit but hold dearly to your memories and share them with anyone who will listen, it's good therapy and important to talk.

My father told me that it wasn't important to visit his grave because he wasn't there. If I didn't have him in my heart then I'd never find him. I've been to his grave one time since he passed but I got nothing out of it. He isn't there, he is here right now with me and your dad is there with you right now. Always has been, always will be, trust me on this.

Sincere best wishes, hang in there. Even though it seems like it will never get better it really will.

Answer 9

It is ok to cry. You will never get over a loss like that but the pain will ease over time. Sorry about you loss. Jest hang in there, help the people around you and live you life to the fullest.

Answer 10

whoa.....totally crappy, sorry that this has happened, but i dont know if there is a way to "handle" someone that close passing away.....i cant speak for myself my father is still alive, at least last i knew he was, although thats been almost 2 years ago now. but i guess you just have to take it 1 day at a time, and if that doesnt work try to take it hour by hour, and minute by minute if you have to, eventually you'll come to terms with it and you'll be able to go on with life, it will take time, surround yourself with family and friends that will be there for you through this most difficult time, and maybe it wouldnt hurt to see a counselor or therapist that can help you through this.

Answer 11

my dad passed away when i was in the gulf war i didnt even get to say goodbye or see him and worst of all the airforce wouldnt let me go to the funeral. i was hurt sad wanted to kill everyone even my own troops but when i was alone i just read the bible and i slowly was able to deal with it because since my dad was a pastor i knew his after life was gonna be a lot better then where i was at so my tears slowly became happier and my life was even happier for i knew my dad was happy