We dated for 2 years and she cheated on me with her boss. I was devastated. Now I want to show her that frankly I could care less about her. I know it might seem childish or whatever, but I want to do it and it might add some closure. Any ideas?
2007-04-11 16:58:59 · 45 answers · asked by bamafleck 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have moved on but for some reason it eats at me that she never hurt like I did. I want her to feel like I did.
2007-04-11 17:02:16 · update #1
easy, all you have to do is dress on point, find out where she is going to be and show up with a chick on your arm looking good as hell
2007-04-11 17:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by kmp678 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do agree, be the better person and move on, but however I have been in your shoes many times w/my x-husband. So I would make sure that when you did go out, it was at a place where either her friends could see and they would gossip or some place that you know she might be at and could see ya going on. Don't even look her way or speak to her, even if she is w/someone you know. Gossip is the power of revenge.
Another good way is, if you don't already have an myspace page or something like that, you could get one and post pictures, comments of how good,exciting, etc.... your life is now without her.
You wouldn't even have to be seen with the same person, go on dates with others not just one person.
The icing on the cake is, if you know of one of her friends that likes you, go out with them and at the end of the date/evening lay a kiss on that person.
Don't forget to pack up anything she may have left at your house and return them. Even if that means leaving them outside by the front door w/a note and just walk off. No talking.
2007-04-11 17:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by monydanyale 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can feel your pain deeply, it's very hardest thing to face with, a person you love dear betrayed you, especially,they're making sure you know about it and who they doing the cheating with. It's like sky is falling down on your world, feel like you've lost every bit of your soul, and nothing is worth to live for, your heart is bleeding, you crying days and nights, and wanted to die.
I am sorry for what happened to you, but you don't want to do that, try to get back by revenges or get even, is not the right thing to do. Obviously, you still love your ex girlfriend very much for you want to get back at her. Don't place your self in her level, because she had done something wrong, does not mean you have to do the same? If you want the closure to your ex, then just let it be, let her know you still care and love her, and if she still care and love you, time will tells...for now just take care your self mentally and emotionally.
Good luck,
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2007-04-11 17:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by Pam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are very right in feeling devastated and the best way to get back at somebody is to move on and look really happy and prosprous...u should tell her very clearly what u felt about her cheating and break ur relations from her right away or on teh extreme side u can go to her workplace and create a scene but that won't be an appropritae thing to do i would suggest move on...all the best
2007-04-11 17:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by glister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way:
Don't get back at her at all. Be the better person and let her be.
Revenge doesn't do any good. Remember why we're at Iraq right now? Part of it is revenge and I don't know ur position but lives are lost as a result, it doesn't do any good. All lives contain down sides don't add more to hers. You shared something , somehow right?
2007-04-11 17:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by RC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get caught in such a vicious circle. It won't add closure and it will probably just make things worse. Move on. If she cheated it's not worth your time. You can't live your life wanting to get back at people, it will consume you. Take the high road and move on with your life.
2007-04-11 17:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by Adam F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to "get even" with a cheating significant other is to get on with your life and be happy. The happier you are, the more successful you are without them, and the more it will show them that you don't really care.
The only other thing you could do is to have an affair with her new significant other, but that's really not a viable option for most men.
2007-04-11 17:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by Julie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I did when she cheated on me I acted like it did not matter and I said I wanna be in a relationship still. When we got back together I cheated on her with her best friend and made sure she walked in on it.
2007-04-11 17:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by angel_of_death9992 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try to figure out why she cheated on you. Perhaps you can learn from it for future relationships. Try to understand if she is the problem or if you are... Hope this helps. And by the way... Life always got better for me when I moved on...
2007-04-11 17:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by haphazard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By beeing a man and not looking more childish then her.
And saying that you want to get back at her shows that your still dwelling on her. so saying that you could care less about her is a lie.
2007-04-11 17:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by THe questioneer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you could care less about her and want her to know that, dont get revenge! Thats just showing her how much she pissed you off enough to get back at her. Screw her and dont let it phase you one bit. Act as if you just broke up and that was that. Be happy! Best luck
2007-04-11 17:02:34 · answer #11 · answered by xratedsugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋