My finacee has three sisters and I have a sister and close cousin who we want in the wedding. Thats 5 girls just with family and I have A LOT of friends! My wedding will be 150-200 guests. I have lost touch with some old girlfriends but as soon as we are together again its like no time has passed! Then, I have made some new close friends at college but I don't know if I will stay close with them after we graduate and go our seperate ways. What "friend criteria" is strong enough to be a bridesmaid? Any advice on what girlfriends to ask?
2007-04-11 16:21:40 · 14 answers · asked by Kirsten 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your sister and future sister in laws should be the first included as bridesmaids. Make your sister your maid of honor. That is the best as they will always be in your life. You could ask a couple close friends to help with the cake cutting and serving punch etc. Make sure to get each special helper a corsage.
I feel sure friends will understand why you would have family in the wedding party.
2007-04-11 16:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by JAN 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you already have 5, that's quite a few bridesmaids! I have been a bridesmaid 5 times, and I can tell you that not everyone wants to be a bridesmaid. It is expensive, and there are a lot of responsibilities involved. Not everyone will feel insulted if you do not ask them. I had a friend from high school who asked me to be one of her bridesmaids when we were in our mid-20s, I took it as a compliment and accepted, and then I found out she had 8 other bridesmaids! I never kept in touch with her after her wedding, because it was insulting to me and I just felt used. You need to consider who really wants to be a bridesmaid: do all of your fiance's sisters really want to be in the wedding? Also, who can afford it, and who is willing to take on the responsibility. I myself would not ask people I lost touch with or new friends. I would probably stick with family as family is more important than anything. Congratulations, and good luck with your wedding!
2007-04-12 01:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by puffstermama 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I could have had 10 bridesmaids if I asked everyone, but that seemed a bit extreme! I ended up wiht 4, I asked my sister, his sister, my longest friend (who I have known literally since we could walk!) and my best friend who I was roomates from college with. then I had my cousins who were younger but I am super close to as JR. Bridesmaids.
I know you have a lot of sisters to deal with, so yours is a little tougher than mine, but the thing I do regret now is not having a couple more girls who I really considered having up there with me. They were kinda on the fence, but I decided it would make it too many, so I didn't have them, and those 3 girls ended up being far more helpful to me during the wedding planning and doing more sweet things for me than most of my actual bridesmaids did!
If you have someone who you really would like to have, include them, but if you seem to really be talkin yourself into having htem, let them be guestbook attendants and cake servers, that sorta thing so they are still included. Or maybe even have several honorary bridesmaids and have them seated just before the mothers are all together and let them carry like a single rose or whatever flower you are using with a ribbon on it. I now wish I had at least done that! My wedding was about the size of yours and I could have pulled it off and truly regret not having those girls do something more important! hope it helps!
2007-04-12 10:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite the girls that you wish to share that very important day with, the ones who mean the most to you. Don't worry about who will get upset if they're not in the wedding party it's your day and you can't have everyone as a bridesmaid. Personally me though i will be asking my close friends which are a mix of new and old friends.
2007-04-11 23:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having 7 bridesmaids - 4 are my sisters, 1 is his and 2 are my cousins who I'm very close too. Just get nice dresses they can wear again from somehwere like monsoon, tell them to get their own shoes in a specific colour, let them accesorise themselves to keep costs down and show individuality (asuming they're old enough!)
Hey if you're having at least 5 what's a few more??
2007-04-12 06:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by AliCat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I picked the ones i was friends with longest because i know they'll always be my friends no matter what. I wanted to pick really close friends who care about me and would likely continue to be friends with me afterwards because i think it would be sorta awkward to look back at my wedding photos a few years from now and see people who were involved on my special day that I don't even speak to anymore. My sister wanted to include tons of friends in her wedding, and she hasn't seen many of them since (that was almost 10 years ago). Kinda sad.
2007-04-11 23:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by katskradle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to first off make your decisions. and don't worry about who gets upset!! if they really love you they will understand. you can also find things for the family to do (guestbook, seating, favors) there are so many things. you actually need a lot of people in a wedding. you should ask the girlfriends that you know will be there for you. most of the time college girlfriends will understand. they know that they are your friends but afterall your old friends have been there longer and all that stuff
2007-04-11 23:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by lsubabe1086 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am getting married in june and this was what i did my fiance has two sisters one of them are in the wedding we wanted both but only one wabted to do it i chose three of my cloest cousin and i have one of my childhood friends, my best friend i met in college , i have a friend that i have grown close to over the years and i have a friend who was raised as my sister so yes i have a huge wedding i have 7 bridesmaids and maid of honor and a marton of honor.. hope you can decided what you want to do. if they love you they will understand taht everyone can't be in the wedding and that it is your day and they should just want to share that moment with you inf they are standing there with you or in the audience crying and smiling with you so it wil work out. gl to you
2007-04-12 09:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by mzmack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that you won't go all bridezilla on your girls, and make them shell out a fortune and devote their lives to you, pick the girls who are the most organized, the most reliable, the most likely to be able to attend relevant events (without having to take off work and fly into town, etc.), and those girls who are the lowest on the drama-meter.
You really don't want some gossiping, snotty, uptight, lazy, disorganized, late-to-everything, trifling idiot to add any stress to your life.
2007-04-11 23:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by rhetorica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. someone you can trust ---no matter what.
2. someone who will help you lower your anxiety level.
3. a person without personal desires for gain in your marriage or being part of the service....just wants to see you happy.
4. someone dependable, able to think clearly, behave properly, care for your situation and understand when you say yes or no to something, that is it.
5. someone who will love you through this, be direct when needed and assist more than cause problems...
if you can find gals with all of these characteristics...and more, if you decide to make a longer list....go for it.
2007-04-12 01:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by jerichofell0604 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋