2007-04-11 15:38:24 · 14 answers · asked by chey 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Well, I guess people who say you should not have spanked without authority are right. You are 18 and I guess he is 12. In this day and age it is not really the right thing to do I guess. However, when I was in my teens I had similar problems with my step brother and in desperation one day I spanked him. It had a similar effect to the one your discribe. He was transformed. I did spank him a few other times, never on the bare backside or anyhting sick like that (though I have since spanked boyfriends in that way but that is another story...)
Iwonder if your aunt also spanks him. For some children spanking seems to work. Personally, and I am not a mother, I do not think it is the best way and I hope I will avoid it when I become a parent. Spanking growen up guys is fine but children, not it feels wrong. I do kind of regret spanking my step brother but he says it benefitted him as he was out of control, neither my father or his mother gave us any time at all in our teens (he was 4 years younger than I was). I suppose I was like a replacement for his mother. Though I hated him when he came to live with us we are now so close, more so than with either of our respective natural parents. I am not saying that came from the spanking but more the bigger package.
So rather than condemn what you did without the full facts I thought I would share my tale and urge considerable caution as you could find yourself in serious trouble.
Good luck, hope this helped in some way
2007-04-14 09:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by Skyblue Princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should check with his mother, I was spanked as a child and I turned out ok. childeren need to be corrected, thats why we have so many teenagers in trouble, i knew my mom would spank me so i behaved, I never used drugs, drank, or backed talked my parents i respected them i am 24 now and even though i thought it was terrible of them at the time, now im glad that they loved me enough to correct me i never got into the usual trouble most teenager did, keep in mind there is a differance in a spanking on the butt and beating a child if you leave bruises or marks (or worse) thats beating but putting him over your knee is spaking!!!
2007-04-11 22:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Do you have permission from his parents to spank him?
Even if the parents spank the child, that doesn't mean that YOU are allowed to do it!
Unless you have spoken to his parent/s about whether or not you are allowed to spank their child, don't do it again.
If you did not have my persmission to spank my child and you did it anyway? I would be on the phone with the police as soon as I found out about it. You would be facing any charges I could find.
Oh, and you can be damn sure you would never see my child again.
2007-04-11 22:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by gonefornow 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You never have the right to spank someone else's child. If he is that bad contact the parent and have them deal with it.
2007-04-12 12:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no! bad idea. trust me i grew up being spanked. not the greatest feeling. he listens to you out of fear, so instead of spanking, try talking calmly and nicely and if he doesnt listen, try giving him a treat or you can talk in a more stern tone and say that there will be a small punishment if he doesnt listen or something.
2007-04-11 22:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no you should not keep that up but you should if your suppose to be minding him cut him off if he starts to get to wild . be the adult serious somewhat . you should now put the boy to bed and read him a story or something like that but be calm so he goes to sleep.
in general you should not spank another persons child but you did and that is that so don't worry about it.
2007-04-11 22:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well now that you got his attention next time he acts up tell him you will spank and he SHOULD stop.
But tell the parents and let them deal with the kid, you shouldn't be put in the position to spank.
2007-04-12 01:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by pinkmalibu442 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about him. I am sure, he will listen to you. Be patient. You need to talk to him in a nice way.
Because i happened to have a nephew who used to tear the plants everytime he passed on my plants. All I did was to play with him first. When he was so engrossed with our play, I discussed with him about the plants. I told him that plants have blood, too but the blood's white. I told him, to simply imagine himself as a plant. That if someone cut his finger as the plant's leaf, blood would come out. So, in that way, he attended to the plants. He watered them everyday.
Try to confront him in a nice way, ok? Have a nice day and GOD BLESS THE CHILD.
2007-04-11 22:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by Mutya P 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does his mother spank him? Is she going to mad that you did? I dont think you should spank any kid. Its not fair to make a child scared of you...the idea is to have them respect you. You have to follow through with what you say at all times or else the kids will walk all over you.
2007-04-11 22:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by ~HOLLY~ 5 · 1⤊ 5⤋
i don't think it's your place to spank him. he isn't your child. if he is out of control, talk to his parents. if he still won't behave, they'll need to find someplace else for him.
2007-04-12 10:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋