what can be done??

Question

i asked a question previously about my sister and a guy...i described her situation and most people told me that they are friends with benefits....i agree! i love my sister and this guy is just using her...she has very strong feelings for him and she has told me that she would be soooo happy if he decided to ask her to be his gf...the problem is that she won't speak up and he is probably thinking that she is ok with the situation..what can i do to help her??

Answer 1

Well for starters understand this guy isn't worth it for her. So your going to be talking against a wall. Poor lady apparently doesn't expect much for herself and having a guy showing her any attention has got her feeling so much better then when it was just her giving herself attention. So she most have some insecurities and this guy is using it to his advantage. And you as the sister are just sitting there letting her fall in love with this guy? I mean friends with benefits is an oxymoron, a bad term. Friends wouldn't settle for just a lay. If your truly "friends" with someone your not going to let it go this way, ether. He has to know she feels deeply for him, and yet he doesn't care, it just makes it easier on him to get that next lay in. Is that friendship? If true friends actually descide to start having relationships you would think there would be some compassion? Just seems like lust for him, the fact that you believe he "thinks" she is probably ok with the situation is kind of cruel don't you thing? I mean if he was a friends wouldn't he have talk to her about it? Wouldn't it had come up on his part, not just blaming her for not saying something? He should of said something to, should of ask'd, they should of talk'd about it, the reason why they havn't can only mean one thing. She is insecure, and he doesn't care... do you want her to keep this up with someone who doesn't care? I think you might want to talk to her about helping herself out, not this relationship..... lol chances are he'll flow with it, if it still means he'll get laid, so don't let her ask him out, he'll do it, but is it going to be good for her? Think about that....