so if my boyfriend and i said vows to eachother, with out an officant and asked God to bless it, we would?

Question

be married in His eyes? or do i need to get the Civil certificate of marriage, please, if you say yes or no, what scripture dictates this. i ask because we cannot afford a wedding and i do not yet belong to a church i JUST renewed my faith. thanks

and im not going to a courthouse just so i can be married in the eyes of the government, i want to be married in the eyes of God and i want to know if this is an accecptable way of doing so

hippie? HELLO this is a question in relegion and spirituality, legal government marriage is not my concern a marriage that God will call "legal" is what my concern, but thanks for wasting my time

WHY DOE NO ONE UNDERSTAND?!?! did you really not read the question. IT IS NOT MY CONCERN IF THE GOVERNMENT CONSIDERS THE MARRIAGE LEGAL!!!!! MY CONCERN IF IF GOD WOULD CONSIDER IT LEGAL!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE READ B$ U ANSWER

OH for cryin out LOUD!!!! first of all, i would not be disobeying the laws of the land there is no law that says someone cant do this. i realized i forgot the mention the reason a governmental marriage is not possible, and that is because of my federal financial aid. A GOVERNMENTAL MARRIAGE IS NOT A POSSIBILITY RIGHT NOW can you read that? if not DONT ANSWER THE STINKING QUESTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!! again I AM asking if GOD would see it as "legal" NOT THE GOVERNMENT

I'm not stupid i realize we wouldnt have a marriage certificate, or would be considered legally married by the government. THAT IS NOT MY QUESTION. READ!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Throughout human history there have been a variety of ways in which people have married one another. Personally I'm against private ceremonies. I believe as many people who can should witness the event for legal and moral reasons. If you marry in private there will be no record for either one of you, which could cause legal problems.

To answer your question regarding scripture, there are no indications in scriptural narratives that a priest was ever used to conduct a wedding ceremony and no teaching in scripture mentions it. In other words, its not a scriptural issue either way.

Answer 2

I am a Catholic and I know that in an emergency it is not required for the priest to be present to officiate. It can be a sacramental marriage if the couple has this intention can cannot be formally married for some extenuating reason.

Your situation doesn't sound like an emergency, though, so since you have renewed your faith and want to have a godly marriage, why don't you do ahead and join a church? It will be good for your marriage anyway.

Also, it's good to have the public witness of your marriage vows, even if it's just 1 or 2 people at your wedding.

After you join a church then talk with the pastor and do the marriage counseling thing (it usually doesn't take too long) and then you can marry in the church.

I would say it's worth the wait. Otherwise, you might always regret rushing into a less-than-ideal wedding.

It should not cost hardly anything to have a simple quiet ceremony in a church.

God bless.

Answer 3

You can be married in the eyes of God and not leagally married. What makes a marriage is the feeling and belief between the two involved. If YOU belive that God has blessed you, then he has.
There is no scripture that dictates this as most just talk about the duties of husband and wife and what love is all about.
During the time the bible was written it was Jewish custom to have an "engagement". To break this period they would have to get divorced, however if the woman got pregnant she was viewed as an adulterer.
Read Matthew 12:1-12, Ephesians 5:22-33, Colossians 3:18-19, 1Peter 3:1-7

Answer 4

You know I had this same question about when my husband and I were engaged. We just got married in the courthouse a little over a month ago. We committed to each other a long time ago. I started praying to God that he would make it so I would just know what I needed to do weather I should get married to him or not. I realized that if we weren't married and sleeping together it was wrong but at the same time I felt like we already were married and so then it wasn't wrong but it was just the knowledge of knowing it is wrong without being married. I still don't feel any different since we got married. So I don't really know. It still feels wrong to sleep together so I think we were really married the whole time and Satan has just been trying to break us up and ruin things. Don't take this as any kind of advice or anything, I am just telling you I can relate to this and this is what happened to me and also am telling you the results of my situation which they are still the same, I just have everyone elses's voice out of my head. The ones that were saying it was wrong for us to sleep together. I felt like we were already married and they would say we had to have the certificate and ceromony proving it.....Pray about it.

Answer 5

I just did this about three weeks ago, and I can't even remember the date, but I'm counting it as real.

(My boyfriend now-husband did too obviously). We read out Genesis 2, the end of the chapter and followed every instruction that was there. We had a wedding waltz. I bought myself a ring afterwards. We're going to do a celebrant wedding when I can afford it.

I wouldn't put that we were married on a government form, although I might write a note on the side. We're not living together and according to the law in Australia, it mostly makes a difference if you're living together for social security payments anyway. Marriage is neither here nor there, for that purpose.

Here is the Scripture about obedience to the governing authorities - Romans chapter 1.

The point about fathers giving you away may or may not be political so as to ensure that people only marry the "right" person according to family's choice. Compare my article about the mark of the beast.

Answer 6

God expects you to obey the laws of the land as long as it doesn't violate His laws. It is the right thing to appear lawful before man in all that you possibly can. When my husband and I were re-married, we went to a father of his friend, who happened to be a preacher in our town. He didn't charge anything, though we paid him a love offering. The only real cost was the marriage license..about $5.00 then. The state recognizes a marriage by a preacher, or court official, military official, etc. Surely you can come up with someone who will marry you so that God & the law recognize the marriage. Your very own pastor should be willing to marry you. In any case, God bless you both and go with God.

Answer 7

Technically yes you can do that, but legally you cant, especially if you decide to use your boyfriends last name you will need proof that you were married.

Answer 8

I think the courthouse charged us $50 to get married.

Answer 9

legally you cannot do one without the other. Go to the legal aid society or your pastor.

Answer 10

no. there must be at least two witnesses present at the ceremony, and the bride's father, if he is still alive. without her father's permission, she would contact the local judge.-