should i? - a desprate teenager?

Question

i have been playing the "question game" with a girl for a few weeks each night staying up till 3am talking. the only problem is that she is my friend and fellow lacrosse player's ex. and she broke up with him about a week ago (she saw him as more of a friend). well each time we've played the question game shes asked me to ask the last question and i eventually figured out what she ment and i decided to ask her out for casual conversation and coffee. well im not sure if i should tempt the boundary of my friendship and go more than a cup of coffee with her or should i stay friends? i like her alot and im not sure how my friend would react,

Please help - a desprate teenager

Answer 1

Well, you could talk to your friend, but it is sort of not his place to say that he doesn't want you to go out with her. Also, the fact that you referred to this other guy as a "fellow lacrosse player" makes me think that you are really not that great of friends with this guy anyway. In that case it would be weird of him to have a problem with you dating his ex.
If you like her a lot, and it definitely sounds like she likes you a lot, then I say go for it. She would be thrilled and that other guy shouldn't even care.
Good luck!!!

Answer 2

A week isn't that much time for either of them to get over a breakup. Even if she just saw the ex as a friend, there is still pain in ANY breakup and one week doesn't help it heal that much. The best thing right now would be to just keep it at a friends-only level until say, 3 weeks to a month has passed, then go for the next step. And, before you do anything with this girl, even the coffee date, TELL THE TEAMMATE!! He may not be happy with it, and he doesn't have to be, but at least he'd know what was going on and wouldn't feel that you did something with his ex behind his back. <3

Answer 3

I know what you mean, I've been through that as well and it's not an easy task. My problem came to be that I was so angry that people would leave and say that im being one way or another made it hard for me to even want to try to be a "nice" person. I guess it all comes down to how you see yourself, i mean just from my personal experience, i was not a happy person because i knew i was an a$$, and in turn that really made it so i didn't even want to try. But you gotta live for you, you gotta realize that yeah, i'm not in a good spot, and i don't have a "perfect" life, but i'm not gonna let that make me a bad person. And your first step is getting that anger out. It sounds corny but find someone you can talk to...i've never been much of a talker but when i do...it doesn't make that problem go away, but inside you feel better just by getting it out. Hope i was some help :)

Answer 4

Did she accept the coffee invitation? If she did, just be cool, enjoy each other's company, don't rush things or you might chase her away. While you are out, ask her if she is interested in being more than friends. Todays problem with most people is lack of honesty and communication. You never know anything till you ask someone, right?

Answer 5

go slowly but if you are interested and so is she....I say go for it! Your both young and will date lots of others between now and the time you make a final comittment to one girl. Each of the girls youwill meet and date until that time will have been someone elses girlfriend b4 you. ;) Enjoy yourselves!

Answer 6

ill advise u 2 keep it friendly but ull have 2 decide 4 urself dude

Answer 7

Ok I would take her out and see what your friend does and if he freaks out hes a baby and hes not a good friend

Answer 8

Get the all clear from the ex tbh. better to know where you stand then guessing

Answer 9

ask her if she likes you.. more than just a friend. that way you will know...dont pretend that you like her just as a friend or she will respond the way she think you want her to

Answer 10

well if you and your friend are super close, i wouldnt do it, i wouldnt even suggest it if hes just a small friend