Theres this girl that is very persistent in asking me to go to movies and whatnot, I say yes because I consider her a friend and I do want to hang out with her, but I think she wants to date me. I try and give off the "were just hanging out" vibe, but I dont know if she gets it. I dont consider when we go to the movies a date but she probably does... I dont want to hurt her feelings. Any suggestions?
2007-04-11 14:00:12 · 19 answers · asked by Joel H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop talking to her. It will devastate her, but it's one of the only ways. After a while make it clear that you just want to be friends, or tell her that now.
2007-04-11 18:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She hasn't asked you out yet so keep being her friend but instead of just hanging out with her ask her if u can invite a few of ur other friends, she should say yes. If she says something like, "No, want it to just be ME and YOU" in a sort of sassy kind of way or cute kinda way then yeah she definitly fancies u so try to make up excuses that u cant go and stuff. If she ever asks to be ur girlfriend then say something like "i could never date a best friend, I wouldnt want to ruin a friendship, it means to much to me, losing u would be really hard."
Also when ur together talk about ur love life, never ask her hu she fancies otherwise she might think you want her to say u and get led on even more, but tell her deep dark secrets (only if u can trust her) or make secrets up and then if she does tell people then it doesnt matter, because that way she'll feel like ur really good mates and she'll be put a little of you because she doesnt want to lose u as a m8.
Another thing to do is get m8s to slag u of to her, or u tell her really embarresing disgusting things even if they're not true. Maybe even if it gets desperate and none of that works, fart infront of her, really smelly one, if i fancied u and u did that infront of me (no matter how fit u r) i'd totally get put of! lol
2007-04-14 13:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by Zoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is just tell her all you want to do is remain friends and you want to hang out but only as friends. don't lead her on jusr flat out tell her what you feel. she should respect you for that cause too many people will lead another person on which ends up hurting the other person and then theres not as much of a chance at remaning friends
2007-04-11 21:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her freind. Dont call her like you would a g.f. Hang out with her and other freinds at the same time... If she still doesnt get it and shes comming on to you hard, tell her the truth but nicely
2007-04-11 21:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by Mike M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she asks to go out with you, every second or third time make up an excuse, Something simple will do simple lies are easier. Then slowly but surely ween her off you. If that doesnt work set her up with one of your friends :)
2007-04-11 21:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP! slowly back off, so as not to scare her. start inviting more and more people to these "dates" and then slowy start saying "no, i'm busy" not righ away, but start saying it like once every two weeks, the once a week, then twice a week, until you're saying it every time she asks. it may hurt her, so be gentle and nice.
2007-04-11 21:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by Emily B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you like another girl (even if you don't), but try and make her think that you are asking her advice on what girls like. This way she will def. know that you are not interested in her. But there really is no way to not hurt her if she likes you though.
2007-04-11 21:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by AnnaCole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just chill dood. dont worry about what she thinks. if you dont like her, then just hang out and be yourself. you see, if you went up to her and was like, i dont want to date you or anything, she could turn around and say, oh, i wasnt even thinking about that. then youd be standing there really embaressed. so when she asks you out, thats when you could say no, lets just stay friends!! so right now stop trying to worry about what shes thinking!!
2007-04-11 21:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by ebonycorine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her down easy like saying I like you as a friend but I don't wanna go out with you....but if you're scared to say that to her face then write her a note saying it.....
2007-04-11 21:04:00 · answer #9 · answered by Auntie2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just ask her to hang out with you as friends and tell her "This is great. Your my bestfriend"Sounds cheesy but it works for me
2007-04-11 21:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋