I'm 20. I've tried this male-female friendship thing a few times, but it always ends up turning into something sexual. Not that we have sex, but it comes up in conversation. And once it's out on the table, it's hard to go back to thinking of this person as just a friend. Is this sexual tension normal? Does anyone have a purely platonic male-female friendship?
2007-04-11 13:57:24 · 25 answers · asked by JenniFire 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No.
Women can but men can't. It's because we are always trying to nail them. Fact is women make poor friends for men, we can't be ourselves around them and truly have little in common (chasing women). Men pretend to be your friend (and women believe it), just to get close and wait until the right time to nail you. We can even do this for years, it's not that difficult.
Women who claim otherwise are either fooling themselves or delusional.
2007-04-11 14:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes, I have a very good friend , of course we meet at work, but our relationship has grown, he's married and so was I, I no longer am and he still is. I've someone new in my life and now he and his wife are having problems. we have never played that there was something between us aside from friendship. to me he's just like one of my best girl friends except he's a guy. great to get info from the other point of view. we talk about sex and have even flirted , but we both know what line not to cross. we have been friends for going on 5 years now. I think he's a great dad and husband to his wife and kids. i know he's a great friend. there is a difference in the way we treat a sexual interest and a person we later call a friend. someday you too will experience this and it won't matter what you talk about , there will be no sexual tension , just conversation.
2007-04-11 21:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by panda bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do!! My best guy friend and I have known each other for 5 or 6 years, hanging out every day after school (when we were in school), and even have slept in the same bed, and there was no sexual tension. I did however think he was very attractive, but didn't ever act on anything because I didn't want things to get weird between us. I dunno if he thought the same, but he never tried anything with me either. So, yes, it can happen, but I do believe it is few and far between! But it is great if you can find that one person that you can have that type of relationship with, we are both married now and still are good friends and our spouses know that that's all it will ever be between us so they are both alright with it. It's awesome!
2007-04-11 21:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the sexual tension thing is normal, but it is possible, in my experience to have a purely platonic friendship. I have talked about sex with guy friends, but it was just conversation. I think if there's an attraction between the two people (or even on just one side) it'll be different. I guess it depends on what kind of relationship you have to start out with. If you think of yourselves as siblings, it'd be less likey to happen.
I have engaged in harmless flirting, but it was as a joke between us, cuz we both knew it wouldn't go anywhere.
2007-04-11 21:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by pj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible but often does turn to something more the key to one of these friend ships is to be in a large group of both male and female friends so if sex comes up their will be to many people for a single sexual tension to come up.
2007-04-11 21:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by khorrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you grow older, the man woman friendship thing will become more natural. At age twenty, there are plenty of folks who are just looking for a fast, good time, with no hangups. As far as it goes, talking about sex is actually good in my book. I guess it depends on how the conversation started and how personal it gets. Don't get talked into doing anything you know will end in disaster.
2007-04-11 21:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by 4paws 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
95% of my friends are males and with more thank 80% of them i have never once spoken about sex. I see them as just friends..I try to look at them as really masculine and hairy girl friends. lol. I've never been sexually attracted to most of them, although some of them are rather handsome.
We like to keep it purely platonic simply because we don't want to ever have an awkwardness between us or we're just not into eachother.
2007-04-11 21:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by iHEARTPiCKLES 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, MOST OF MY FRIENDS are girls. Most of them, I don't really talk about sex with TOO seriously. Hell, it'll come up. But we're still only friends. Maybe you're just really hot... But yes, i do have a purely platonic male female relationship. I have a dozen of them.
2007-04-11 21:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by WolfMage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're single then the friends thing doesn't work because you see every member of the opposite sex as a potential partner. In a committed relationship you can relax and just be friends, as you have no desire for any sexual activities with them.
2007-04-11 21:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When we live in the flesh we pursue the lusts of the flesh. It is natural.
Turn your life over to God and the spirit of God will give you new eyes. Sex will fade to the physical thing that it really is and will no longer be your main interest.
Sin is cheap. It is like living in a house with a pig sty in the front yard, when you could be walking down marble halls, and strolling through gardens of the finest flowers. Sinclair Lewis
2007-04-11 21:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by moondrop000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley! However at age 20, with raging hormones and sexual tension, it's a little bit harder. Any chance you're giving off signals that you might be interested and then change your mind?
2007-04-11 21:02:58 · answer #11 · answered by whalenfree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋