she is 24 and i am 44
2007-04-11 13:45:18 · 24 answers · asked by Bruce S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I personally think that the only reason that age is an issue is because if the age gap is drastic then majority of the time, the two individuals are in two completely different stages in their lives.
But if it makes you happy...then go for it. Just be cautious. =D
2007-04-11 14:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by iHEARTPiCKLES 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
24 and 44? Absolutely not. My best friend dated a man that was 39.. she was 20. They were so head over heals in love too. You wouldn't think they had that much in common but they actually did.
Now if it was 14 and 34 I'd say it DOES matter. But its not. She's 24, she is mature and old enough to know what shes doing.
You just have to consider there may be some problems in an age gap. My boyfriend and I are 5 and a half years apart and we have some problems because of it. I'm 22... I'm in no big rush to do anything. He's 27.. so he'd like to get a house soon and all that stuff that goes along with it. Plus he has a son. And I'm not antsy to do the whole kid thing yet. So you can see some things there. Just remember she is 24.. if she doesn't have kids chances she will want some soon. But you're 44, are you gunna want any (or more) kids? By the time your children go to college you'll be 64-70 years old.
I'd say it doesn't matter. Just make sure your both clear on what kind of future you want before it gets serious.
2007-04-11 14:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by CSF 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's quite a gap. The physical age is important especially as you both age when it will be she's 54 and I'm 74. Mental and emotional age and maturity are more important, she might be more mature than you at age 24 (not a good thing) and you could be a very young 44 physically. The difference in age definitely does matter no matter what the romanticist say.
2007-04-11 13:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by whalenfree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age differences can lead to some tension.. For instance you will remember world events that she will not... such as the day the of the Challlenger destruction...
My husband and I ocassionally run into such things.. I am 8 years older than he is... I remember things such as the Iran Hostage Crisis , the day John Lennon was killed he was only 4-5 during those events..
But on a day to day basis the age difference really doesn't matter.. We are just happy together..
Most often we don't notice it until he wants to tease me and call me "My Old Lady"... I have always hated when men call thier wives, girlfriends etc. "My Old Lady"... My husband always calls me that then says "Come on you know you can't deny it you are older than I am." Sometimes he can be so irritating LOL...
I however counter with logical mathmatics... He is aging more quickly than I am.. Let me demonstrate... Last year he turned 29 and was therefore 1/29th of a life time older... I turned 37 and was therefor 1/37th of a lifetime older.... We all know 1/29th is larger than 1/37th so he is therefore aging more quickly.. At this rate he will soon catch up to me... I win LOL..
Age doesn't really matter when you find the person you are compatable... While you may find some events you remember and she doesn't it's not as if those events will come up daily...
2007-04-11 14:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. I'm 24 and if I found someone who I liked that was 44 I wouldn't care. Now if she was 14 and you were 44 then there would be a problem.
2007-04-11 13:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... that's a little too much.
it's not really about the distance between the two numbers, but where you are right now.
she is 24 and just got out of college. she's still trying to stabalize her career, while you're 44 and are already one of the top ranks in your office, with a stable career. you've stabalized and fortified your spots and it's extremely hard for you to get fired.
she's still unsure where she wants to live and everything.
you guys are at different generations.
when she gets to 33 that will be better, because you guys are closer to being in the same "world".
keep a friendship for now.
2007-04-11 13:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you are ok with it ,then go for it, at 44 you are still young and if you both have found some common ground to build a relationship on, that's good but know that there will be generational gaps that may be hard to overcome.
2007-04-11 13:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by Georgewasmyfavorite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In society today it shouldn't really matter although some people still see it as being a problem. I personally think if you are happy and you are both getting from the relationship what you want then who cares what others think. Good luck and keep on sticking your fingers up to the world and doing as you lease it your lives
2007-04-11 13:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex is 26, I am 49,......did I mention she was my Ex ?
I had reservations in the beginning and during, I thought it was to much of a difference then , and still do now. But we are actually real good friends now. But I think it was the age thing on her end that did end it.
2007-04-11 13:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by D'Artagnan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO there should be no matter of worry about age differences. If you care about someone then nothing should come between that. The socialogical closed mindedness of the world can be discouraging, but don't let it effect your life and especially your love. Good luck and stand by your heart. It won't lead you wrong
2007-04-11 13:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋