I'm 24 and this is such a huge issue for me. I'm still at home. I have been with bf for 4 months. If we are still together and happy in a year I want to move in with him. He wants me to. He has his own house. But I'm scared. Escited but scared. Just wanted to hear people's experiences...
2007-04-11 13:40:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to explain..he is the one that wants me to move in eventually. he is always saying cute stuff like..'our house' 'our couch' 'our bed-room' so cute : )
2007-04-11 13:48:12 · update #1
Its a challenge at first b/c the amount of time you are spending together changes drastically. Before I lived with my boyfriend we say eachother daily and spent most nights together, but once we lived together it seemed like we were always in eachother's face. You need to respect alone time and do your own thing ( I had a major problem with this at first) You don't have to do every single thing together and it's important to keep some time for yourself. Also set ground rules about house up-keep so you both know where you stand from the begining...good luck!
2007-04-11 13:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest problem is dealing with the boredom and restlessness that always set in after the newness and the romance wear off. When you start living together, you start having to deal with all those daily life issues that quite simply are no fun and which often require compromise and mutual suffering. Also, you see each other in ways that you can't even imagine right now. No matter how bad his appearance has been up til now, you will see him at moments that will mortify you. He will also see you when you are at your absolute worst, too. Pretty soon, you'll be spending a good deal of time talking about bills and groceries and obligations and pet peeves. You will notice every little thing he does that irritates you to no end...and he will notice all the little things wrong about you. This will pass, and it will pass faster if you work at it. Real life is often drudgery, but love endures. Keep the flame alive.
2007-04-12 05:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-20 12:10:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B4 u move in get what is expected of you for him.. set the rules for both and hear each other oujt such as.. who will be doing laundry to each for each his own? or share// food - together to pay or pay as u go for what u want. nites out with the guys or girls is it allowed no questions or not at all? seriously this stuff breaks up people becuz no rules or expectations were set.. lust is that in the beginning. ahave a back up plan if it dotn work know where u can go home or etc.. also who pays utilities? share or him or who.. 4 months is not long. each creature has different of living and guys usually are slobs and girls like frilly things lal over so ask about what u can put up etc.. just have a plan and know what is expected for costs food laundry etc..i moved to my bf to his state gave up my family job etc adn then he decided all was not so great as we got to close and he dint like that.. hm.. u think hard about it. have to have same goals.. u 2 not what he wants tonight if he doesnt want to be around u there is down time for both of u apart but not needign to be mean and apart some couples need time alone.. with trust. they do gym thing and play poker etc girls shop go to movies.. pick a nite to be alone same night or let him know u might get moody/sensitive touchy at times of month as guys really are clueless and spaz out.
2007-04-11 13:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think about it just do it,moving in with my partner was the best decision i have ever made. Since we have stayed together it has been the best he has opened up and i see more of the real person he used to hold back when we lived separately as if he couldn't show the real person he was and that is a very loving caring supportive man. I have been so lucky and i hope you will be to it's a great feeling
2007-04-11 13:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely wait for the year to move in. It is such a big change. You need to be sure it is something you both want. If it does not work out it is tough to end without extreme duress.
2007-04-11 13:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by D'Artagnan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biggest challenge?!
Wow! That's a laundry list of items...
But just be sure that this is something you want to do, and that you two are compatible before taking a step like that!
2007-04-11 13:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by DuSteDShaDoW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretending to be married (sharing a bed, home, bills, chores, etc.) without the security of actually being married sounds like a pretty bad idea to me. Why act like a wife when he hasn't bothered to marry you?
2007-04-11 13:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be gentle and give him space. Don't push too hard at first. It's hard moving into HIS house. He was king of the castle.
2007-04-11 13:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by tjk1701 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait before you get excited.
4 months? LOL
creepy, no offense, that you have even given it much thought. I'd tell him to shelf it for the year then we'd talk.
2007-04-11 13:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋