My duahgter is 4 years old and the light of my life. But I just don't feel conected to her. What can I do to help get over this "problem" other than medication?
2007-04-11 12:31:59 · 10 answers · asked by Kelly 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I know what you mean, sometimes I have a hard time feeling connected to my son, especially when he's being difficult.
You get connected by developing a relationship, and learning to see the world from her point of view. Try to spend some one-on-one time with her, like an excursion. Zoo trips are great for this, watching movies, playing board games, reading together, miniature golf, tea parties, making cookies together. Ask her what she thinks of this or that and try to see from her eyes. This will help develop the connection.
It takes time and effort but it can be done. Good luck to you.
2007-04-11 12:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by KC 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just take time out and do stuff with her. Like now while you are sitting on the computer get up, turn the computer off, and go sit in the floor and play a game with her. My son is 4 and he loves the memory game. Little things like that mean the world to children.
2007-04-11 15:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Kristin R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her into her room before bed. Sit in a chair and hold her. Hug her. Play some music and play with her hair while you sit there and absorb all of that love. Kiss her forehead and remember her as a baby. Think of how she has changed your life. Cry if you feel it. Hug her more, and just relax. That physical closeness will melt your heart and help you feel closer to her. Then, repeat it often. She'll love it, too!
2007-04-11 16:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by BellaJ_DDils 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find something of interest for both of you and just make it mommy and daughter time. When my daughters were little, I would sit on the floor and let them do my hair. I went to the store with an unbelievable number of barretts and hairdos that no one would come out of their bathroom with just because they were so proud. Just remember one thing, she is only four so you have to pick something she is capable of doing and don't worry if it isn't perfect, just as long as the two of you have fun.
2007-04-11 12:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by cheoli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep it basic. Just love her, and love yourself. Maybe the disconnect is not between you and your daughter..... Nothing in life is Permanent. You have a lifetime to spend with your child. It is reasonable to not always feel connected. Relax
2007-04-11 12:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Che K 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You know, it is possible to give birth to little individual who is very different then you. I'm sure she has qualities that you admire. The more time you spend with your child, the better.
2007-04-11 13:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by Eartha Q 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I feel like this, its when I am overwhelmed by everything else.
What helps for me is to become more physically connected to my daughter......hug her, feel her beautiful skin, smell her still sweet little child smell....
2007-04-11 20:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by psychokitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch a movie with her go to the park tickle her (when i was little my dad did tickle mania with me and he would just tickle me alot) let her get away with something
2007-04-11 12:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by i luv gymnastics 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to spend some "mother doughter time" with her. may be take her to the zoo.
2007-04-11 12:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by shoppergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean medication theres no medication for that!
2007-04-11 12:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by MUERTE 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋