How do I help my sister with out getting her put in jail?

Question

My sister went into the army about a year and a half ago went thru boot camp and now she is in school but she screwed up she met this guy after two months married him she has been calling me everyday for money and i have two kids and a husband we both work really hard to make ends meet but because i love her each time i sent her the money well last night she calls and said that the army kicked her out on the street and she needs money to get to her in laws house so like a good sister i send her some more she told me that this will probably be the last time i talk to her for a while my aunt told me the other day that the army called her and told her that she went a wall and has been for about two months well my question is what should i do should i tell the army where she is please help me i am lost

Answer 1

She screwed up, she must pay the consequences. You are doing her no favor by being an enabler. You tried to help her & she still didn't learn...there's nothing more you can do. Turn her in for her own good.

Answer 2

I don't get it the Army kicked her out, just like that? I believe there are some other procedures for them to get rid off people. However, maybe your sister is not telling you the whole story! I wouldn't give her anymore money and if somebody from the Army ask then you say the truth. No more protecting your sister because you might be doing more harm than good! Think about your kids and let your sister learn to be a married grown up girl!!!

Answer 3

One thing calm down. Your sister is AWOL(Absent Without Leave) if she hasn't been gone for over 30 days then she'll be alright. Strongly encourage her to report to the nearest Army base and turn herself in. What will happen is she will be returned to her home base. She will be given probably a Field Grade article 15. That is the highest form of non judicial punishment. She will be restricted to post for 45 days, extra duty for 45 days, maybe half a months pay for two months and reduction in rank. All this is up to the Colonel and may not be that bad. But bottomline she will be allowed to stay in the Army and ahe has no criminal record at all. After 30 days she is a deserter then she has a very big problem. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I believe you should. I know its really hard but it sounds like your sister has problems beyond just a bad choice in men. Seems like immaturity and possibly drugs and/or alcohol could be a factor. And if either is the case then some time off the street and away from enablers/suppliers is the best thing for her. If you dont turn her in she will only be living a life on the run that will inevitably end up with her in a worse situation than the one she is in now. I am very familiar with the military and know they will not just let her be.. its not like when you have a warrant because you missed your traffic court date. Thats not going to help her get back on her feet. She needs to face this and put it behind her. In the meantime quit sending her money. Dont take from your kids to fund her fugitivity. And I could not end this with out at least mentioning patriotic duty. Good luck

Answer 5

At this point your sister has pretty much toasted her life by going AWOL as the Army is aggressively pursuing deserters. To mitigate the issue she would be far better off turning herself in to the authorities rather than waiting until the find her.

She has doubtless by now been listed with the Feds as being AWOL and at any point she could be pulled over for a traffic violation and get warranted out. That would mean arresting her, and holding her in a County jail until the MP's process her out. The could take several weeks.

I don't know where she is, but most county jail are not the type of place she will want to end up in for any extended period of time.

If the authorities contact you, do not lie to them regarding your sister's location if you know. You could be arrested and tried for aiding and abetting a deserter which is a felony crime in itself.

Answer 6

Forget about your sister as you have the words sucker stamped over your head. They never change. My sister is a worthless piece of **** as well and has never been there for my parents at all until 5 weeks ago she sucked her way back into mums life. We told mum she was stupid and that my sister wanted something and give her a few weeks and we would find out. Sure enough yesterday she tried to hit mum for $40,000.00
So dont be an idiot and dont give your sister any money as you really are not helping her. My sister doesnt need the money as her kids are starving or anything else she just wants to update her already nice house for a bigger better house with a pool and a tennis court. She just doesnt want to work for it. Make your sister work for what she gets and if she is awol dob her in.

Answer 7

My heart goes out to you. I know how it is to have a sibling that puts you through hell and back. On one hand, you want to choke the life out of them. On the other hand, you want to hold them and keep them safe.

Unfortunately, your sister has failed to grow up and must now face the consequences of her actions. Because the consequences of her actions will not just fade away.

Your sister is AWOL (sorry, not "a wall"). It stands for Absent WithOut Leave. To make matters worse, she went AWOL during a time of war. That increases the charge to Desertion. If her unit is deployed, a charge of Missing A Movement may be added. Each charge is very serious, and she risks severe and life long consequences. Those may include time in a military prison and a dishonorable discharge (which will follow her everywhere).

If she turns herself in, the punishment may be less severe. Her commanding officer is likely to take it into consideration and give her an Article 15 (Non-Judicial Punishment). She will likely face a loss of rank, a reduction in pay, extra duty and restriction. It is a far cry better than the alternatives that I mentioned earlier.

This is what you should do. Contact your sister and explain to her that you know what her situation truly is now. Remind her (because, trust me, she already knows) of how much trouble she is in. Tell her that you want to help her, but that the ONLY help that you can possibly give is to go with her to turn herself in. If she refuses, tell her that you love her but she is on her own. You don't want to get yourself involved any other way.

You may also want to explain to her that you can not lie for her if the military contacts you.

I hope this helps you. Again, my heart really does go out for you.

Answer 8

I believe you should.

I believe if someone has done something wrong, they have to pay for the consequences of their actions.

That is a serious offense and if you hide it and they find out you knew, you could be in trouble too. The best thing to do as a sister to help her, is to tell them where she is. She is obviously in some sort of trouble and that is why is has been asking you for money. She lied to you.

I know it will be hard to do, but you should do it. I was in the Army for 8 years and I believe once you sign those papers, you have a obligation to fulfill. She needs to face the consequences for her actions. You can be there to support her if she needs to talk. She may be mad at you at first, that is expected. You and she will know you have done the right thing.

My prayers are with you as you do the right thing.

Answer 9

Dear Trisha,
The term is AWOL (Absent With Out Leave).If I were you i'd
have a serious sit down with your Sister and try to work
with her to talk about options. If She stays gone for too long
she could be considered a Deserter and that is really bad
mojo.
I Can understand that there are a lot of people who are
not cut out for the Army or just don't like it.But it only ruins
one's life to neglect one's duty. Plead with her to seek
some responsible help and go back to finish her Duty.
Then she can get out Scot free and never worry about it again

Answer 10

Sounds to me like your sister needs to grow up and accept responsibility for her OWN LIFE !!! You are not her mother, husband, keeper. I have a sister, and we're pretty close, but I wouldn't/couldn't send her money whenever she needed because she couldn't get a handle on her own finacial responsibilities. Tell the Army where she is, then maybe, if they DO put her in jail, she will grow up and learn what being an adult is really all about.

Answer 11

An AWOL charge will not go away. If she returns voluntarily to the Army, and if she has a clean record she just might avoid brig (jail) time. I would contact her and try to persuade her to report back to her Company Commander. She may as well face the charges and get this portion of her life behind her. You do not have to do anything, but that would make you a law breaker. You choose?