the negativty?

Question

I'm 18 and i have a 2 yr old Daughter and twin infants and people talk negative about me because i'm 18 and have 3 kids!!!!! I'm still in school i only have a month in a half! my husband takes care of my kids! while i'm at school why do people talk negative!!!!!!! do u think i'm too young to be married?

Answer 1

No you are not too young. Your children's father and you seem to be very responsible individuals. You're about to complete school. Congrats!

Answer 2

ARE YOU HAPPY??? I do not think your age matters when it comes to raising a family and the whole marriage thing is between 2 people NOT everyone else. You are an adult at 18 and you have already started making your own decisions when you had children. I give you credit for having 3 children, a husband and still in school. That is a lot to balance. Take it slow and everything will work out just fine. Be blessed that you have found a husband who loves you and is willing to pitch in and do his part (most will try to get out of it). You need to hold him close and never let him go, Cherish him always! As for the talking....forget about it, you and only you knows what is best in your current situation. there is an old saying "If there are talking about you they are leaving someone else alone". I know about the talking, I am a mother of 8 loving children and I am a hot topic because of it...Take care of yourself and enjoy you little ones..

Answer 3

i know what you mean I'm 19 and have 2 kids ages 5 years old and a 6 month old. i was 13 when i got pregnant and had my son when i turned 14 so i have had a lot of negativity. i got married and we got kicked out,i had a bank account my grandfather set up so we lived on that till my husband and i finished school, my son was in daycare and then my husband joined the army when he turned 17 so we have been in a few years now and we are happy and have been together longer than some adults. my husband is 2 years older than me. my sons are happy and healthy and do not want or need nothing we provide well for then and they are love.you sound like your doing fine so i wouldn't care what everybody says. do like i did and say yeah i might be young but look how happy and healthy they are. good luck

Answer 4

To answer your question directly, yes, I do think you're too young to be married. This opinion is not based on any societal norms, but instead my own understanding of how much emotional development you still have to face in your life. Most of your growing is yet to be done.

I will have to give you props, though, for finishing school! This is a really important thing that will not only help you to provide for your children, but will also teach your children that you value education. It's a critical lesson!

Disregard the negativity. People everywhere will find something to judge you about, simply to make themselves feel better. It's them, not you. Just do your best in life, and know inside your heart that you're doing your best. Then smile at the grumps and walk away!

Answer 5

Sounds like you got it together. Congrats on finishing school. Hopefully you'll go on to a higher education. Having 3 kids at 18 in most people eyes is to young. But I believe it the person not the age that matters. Don't worry about what other people say, are you happy, your husband, your kids. Are you all healthy, Thats all that matters don't let what other people say bring you down. Most of them are narrow minded twits anyways. Good luck to you and your family

Answer 6

Don't worry what people say about u. Yes u may be only 18, but I'm sure u'r mature, u'r a mom of 3 and married what more can a person ask for. I think people should just wipe of there own steps before stepping on someone else's.

U'r finishing school, u'r married, the guy is there supporting you and u'r kids. How old is u'r husband...actually that doesn't matter...he's there!!!!

Distance u'rself from the negativity...u don't need it and neither does u'r children!!!!

Answer 7

Yes. 18 is far too young to be saddled with three kids. You haven't lived life.
But, you did it, and you're responsible about it, so screw'em. You do your thing, and don't worry about what anyone else says.
If it works for you, GOOD! Finish school, go to college. Have a good life. Don't worry about what others say. You can't change what is already done. Make the best of it. Sounds like you have been making the best of it, and all that matters is your family.

Answer 8

Remember 'sticks and stones may break my bones...'. Don't let these other people get you down dear. If this set up works for you, then more power to you. I do commend you on being married, that's great. What are your plans for after school? Are you able to be a stay-at-home mom for a while or are you going to go to school or work? What ever you and your husband decide is great. I also commend you on staying in school hunny,
Good Job I am proud of you.

Answer 9

Let them talk, as long as you and your husband are handling your business and not asking anyone for anything, then the hell with them. Hold your head up high, hey, married, 18, 3 kids and in school, you go girl. God Bless.

Answer 10

No, you are not too young. sounds like you are doing great! people will always have an opinion no matter what, even when they are not asked. just say to them you are happy and go on about your life. try to ignore their negativity, even though I know its hard.
It is great you are staying in school and you and your husband have worked out a good schedule
congrats on the new babies!

Answer 11

at your young age i think it is a hard pill to swallow for some older people. i personally have no kids and i am 27 but i have had an amazing life so far and i think if i had kids when all my friends were having kids i would have missed out on a lot of things i have done, the drop of the moment trips, the houseboating, travelling. it gets a lot harder to do these things when you have kids. i am glad you are not alone and if you and your husband are happy then i guess that is all that matters.