I have been married for 15 years and now the romance is dead. Yes we have young children but that shouldn't stop the playful flirting or the private time we could be sharing. Don't get me wrong ladies, I make efforts to keep it alive. I always kiss her god morning, good evening and good night. I flirt with her, I but her cards and bring home flowers, I tell her she's hot and good looking, I wink at her as she walks by, I sneak up on her when she's in the kitchen and grab her around the waist as I bite her neck, I take her out to eat and sometimes to the movies ... it seems I'm the only one putting forth any effort to keep romance in this relationship. When there's no flirting back and very little kissing it feels like I'm being rejected. ''I'm tired'' is her same old excuse everytime. Why does the romance die in a marriage? Men will have a wayward eye and seek pleasure from other flirty women when they get rejected for too long. Just a simple question -Where did the romance go?
2007-04-11 09:52:49 · 8 answers · asked by Average Joe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, you sure are one of a kind because from what I know most men by the time 15yrs gone by they don't even do the things you are doing. Your wife should feel very lucky to have someone like you. Maybe you should stop doing all these things so that she can appreciate you. If things don't change then maybe you should look for it somewhere else. I hate to have to say this to you becuz I think marriage is something very special but if your not getting it at home what else can you do. Your wife needs to realize what she's got cuz if she doesn't she will be losing a good thing.
2007-04-11 10:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sammie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that is not an easy question to answer, but it seems to me that maybe a change in scenery would be worth an effort. It is proven that being in the same 4 walls may have a very negative effect on a marriage. Put the excitement back into your relationship, make arrangement (for the kids if you have any) and make the plans then and only then tell her to pack her bags and whisk her away, have some flowers in the room and be spontaneous. Just remember nerver give up but remember what first made you fall in love with her
2007-04-11 10:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need therapy to find out why your ideal marriage can only exist in fantasy land. It's been 15 years...the woman is tired. She probably works, takes care of the house, the kids, you, the laundry, the bills, groceries and you think you winking at her is going to make her fall into your arms? Grow up.
Any man who as you put it "Men will have a wayward eye and seek pleasure from other flirty women when they get rejected for too long" is an immautre child and isn't seeking a relationship and romance, all he wants is his ego boosted. Well, that's just not your wife's job to boost your ego.
Get over yourself, do the dishes, make dinner, do the laundry, deal with the kids and give the wife a night out.
Maybe she'll get a wandering eye too......
2007-04-11 09:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it style of feels which you ought to be attempting so complicated that it fairly is a chore to you to objective and be romantic . i'm particular your spouse is desiring a stable existence with you and the two one in all you may only take a seat and communicate approximately what's making the two one in all you unhappy on your relationship . how is you spouse's wellbeing [ hormone point ] ? are you being romantic or are you anticipating intercourse as a reward for ice cream ? romance has no longer something to do with intercourse . yet you will discover that once you do no longer relate the two jointly which you will get greater " loving " . a loving kiss in the morning , a pat on the lower back ,a loving smile , a considerate call in the process the day plus the ice cream ! protecting her as you lie subsequent to her in mattress [without anticipating intercourse ]. and after an exceedingly brief time i think of the the two one in all you would be getting precisely what you like . Do have you ever spouse get a stable examine as much as see that she does not have a actual subject it is combating her from responding in the techniques she could . you sound like a outstanding guy and that i'm particular you have a outstanding spouse . i will pray on your relationship .
2016-12-20 11:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say something to her about it. have a serious talk with her. maybe she feels like oh boy here he comes again and all he wants is sex. explain to her that all you are doing is trying to keep the spark alive and be like you were. find out why she's so tired.
2007-04-11 09:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by cowgirlclub 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i totally agree with sammy ... i have been married for two years, and he barely looks at me. well, speak to her and ask her if it your attitude bothers her ... if you need to back down. tell her your feelings, like you might not always be around to wait for her.
2007-04-11 10:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by diamond.girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear it mate, Since I'm not a woman, good luck
2007-04-11 09:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In thin air, LOL.
2007-04-11 09:56:43 · answer #8 · answered by Puppy Love! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋