A friend of mine is getting married. He is 36 years of age and his fiance is 28. He has three older children of his own, age 10, 13 and 14. She has one child who is 6 years old. Recently, his fiance's 6 year old called him daddy. He was offended, and stated thatt the 6 year old has a living father ( The 6 year old sees the biological father at least once a month).My friend feels that he should not be called father, because the 6 year old's father is still living (The father lives approximately 80 miles from his son). He wanted my opinion. I think that it is perfectly o.k, for my friend to be called father, because the mother is looking for a true father figure for the child, but I want to know what my friends at yahoo think about this issue.
2007-04-11 09:46:05 · 23 answers · asked by Bobbie S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, my daughter calls my husband daddy, she has since she was 2. She still sees her father once a week. I think it is fine.
It is an honor to be called Daddy!
2007-04-11 09:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Misty M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of 4 and my son calls his stepfather daddy. You should tell your friend not to get married. He sounds like he is afraid of the responsibility of being this child's father. He should think hard about the fact that he will be more a part of that 6 year olds life than the biological father that only sees him once a month. It shouldn't make him upset it when he was called "daddy" it should have made him happy. It doesn't make him a bad guy but it does sound like he is scared.
2007-04-11 10:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can be a father but only special people can be a Daddy. Apparently he is just not a Daddy. I know from my own life, I have a Daddy and I have a Biological father and I am 31. The child knows who is who, this man should feel honored to have been called Daddy.
2007-04-11 10:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by AMB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly normal,the child hears the word daddy from the other 3 kids, she or he wants to be like them.I don't understand why the fiance was offended~ the problem is with him, he should of been a little proud instead..When she or he grows up she will know the diffrents but for now she wants to belong~~with the 3 other kids~ the family unit....Also seening your dad once a month is not much for a little 6 yrs old....
2007-04-11 09:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with the six year old calling him dad, the boy only has an every now and then father, he is going to need someone to look up to in life and if your Friend is marrying his mother that is him.
Your Friend has an opportunity to contribute to the shaping of a young life, he doesn't have to the boy isn't his, but because he is marring the child's mother he made that choice to participate.
In the words of some Country Song he is being the dad he doesn't have to be.
2007-04-11 10:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm more than happy to answer this one. My parents were divorced when I was 2. My mother remarried when I was 8 years old. I liked my stepfather, looked up to him and I wanted to call my stepfather "dad". He had all the responsibilities of a father and he was certainly the only real male role model in my life so in essence, he was my dad.
I can tell you that I agonized over introducing it... I didn't know if I should ask his permission or just start calling him dad one day. I finally worked up the courage and one day and started calling him dad. I can't imagine how I would have felt if he would have acted offended about it.
Your friend should ask himself why he is offended. Is he thinking about hurting the kids father or is he thinking about what's going to be best for the kid?
2007-04-11 09:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by c_crum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend it's ok. I began calling my stepfather daddy at age 6, after he and my mom were married for 3 years. My biological father is istill a part of my life, but in reality my real DAD is the man who raised me, who has been there for me for 24 years. Your friend should see it as a compliment, because when a child lets you in his or her life, you know you are the real thing.
2007-04-11 09:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by natiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is uncomfortable with it, then they may need to make a point of calling him by name whenever around the 6 year old.
Since he has other children, the 6 yr old may be hearing them call him "Daddy" constantly, and so he is thought of as that being his name.
It is only normal for someone to want to call someone else by a name that everyone else uses constantly.
Also, if they do have a problem with it, ask the father to talk with the child. Telling him/her that he is the 'Daddy" and that he really wouldn't want anyone else to take his place.
2007-04-11 09:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by velmadiane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The 6 year old should not be calling the stepfather daddy. The child may just be confused. This issue needs to be fixed ASAP.
2007-04-11 09:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by ..... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only ok if all parties agree to it. it seems like your friend doesn't want to play Daddy or he doesn't want the biological father to feel disrespected. But since he will be in the home and will be playing a father role its ok regardless if the bio.father is still alive and close. Hope this helps
2007-04-11 09:50:08 · answer #10 · answered by claire h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋