I want to quit my job as soon as I get married!! He wants me to stay for a little while... till we have kids. I think this is unfair!! What's the point of getting married if he won't support me??
2007-04-11 09:44:40 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sure why not?? LOL
2007-04-11 09:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Do you not realize that with the rise in the cost of living that in most marriages in todays society that both husband and wife need to be working. The point of a marriage is not for one party to support the other. The point of a marriage is for EQUALITY between the two and SHARING responsibilities. If you decided together as a couple that you would stay home and raise the children, that is one thing. But until you have children, there is nothing wrong with you continuing to work in order to help save money for when the time comes you leave work. Quit being selfish and think about your fiance. That's what marriage is ALL about.
2007-04-11 14:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all your looking for is to be supported by your husband, I think you should move along, Asking you to work till you get pregnant, is not unfair, and you should keep your job till you get ready to give birth. While you are working, put all your pay in a savings account and save it till you want or need something. And if anything happened, you would be in a better position to make it through. anyway,getting married has nothing to do with being supported, it has to do with working together to build the best life you can, you might be way too young to be getting married, you might want to wait 5 or 10 years.
2007-04-11 09:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh so you miss high and mighty can support yourself before you get married but now that a man has opened his checkbook to you its time to do nothing?
Come on sweetheart it takes two to run a house properly these days not just the man. I make more than my husband but just because we're married doesn't mean I'm going to quit my job so he can take care of me while we live in a cardboard box instead of a nice 3 bedroom home. Get real and leave the traditional thinking to those still stuck in the '60's. When the kids come we've already agreed he will quit to be a house daddy which I am totally fine with him changing the diapers. If he has compromised that you should work until the kids come take it and be mature about it, whining is not attractive as my husband likes to tells me.
2007-04-11 09:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by Emily M 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't get married simply to have him support you. People get married to EMOTIONALLY support EACH OTHER, and celebrate their LOVE for one another. You two need to decide what your living situation will be and if you can live as you both want with one income. If he can financially support you now, will his income keep pace with the cost of living say for the next 40 or so years? Perhaps you should think about how being home-bound and a housewife/mom will work for you for the next 18 or 20 years. What if he suffers an accident of some kind, and is incapacitated?
He's not your meal ticket, he's your husband, your life partner. Don't treat him as nothing more than a paycheck.
2007-04-11 15:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tantrum ?
I think you should wait a little while before you get married. You don't sound very mature and quitting your job is a major decision that should involve the decision of both of you.
You also did not notice that he is supporting you with a compromise: Wait till you all have kids.
You should seek marriage counseling before you both make that big step. You will still marry after counseling, counseling just helps you see each other more clearly and be able to help and support one another easier.
Best of luck !
2007-04-11 09:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The head of the household is the husband and yes he is to support you. In these days and times both parents will need to support a household due to high living costs. Now would be a good time to not work if finances are great and having children requires more financial income. So if your husband is rich then one can quit their job --no problem.
2007-04-11 09:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so he'll support you, it's so you two can share your love. But you should be able to quit if you want to, he might think that the second income wuould be a great way to get a little extra money. You two should talk about it, if you two are too off maybe you just have slightly different life goals, you both need to work with the other.
2007-04-11 11:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by LoveisfirE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...
You're supposed to be getting married because you want to share the rest of your lives together! If you're only marrying him so that he'll support you financially, you're treating yourself like a prostitute...and if that's how you're treating yourself, you can't expect him to treat you any differently.
If you want to have a husband who respects you and treats you well, you should act respectfully toward him, and toward yourself. Part of sharing your lives together includes sharing the load...you need to do your part!
Have some self respect, and be a productive member of society. This would mean working until there is a VALID reason for you to stop working...and for many of us, this also means going back to work as soon as our children are old enough to start going to day care!
2007-04-11 09:55:30 · answer #9 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is supporting you and your soon to be family. Is it not unfair to him to make him sole supporter? You both work now, how is getting married a permanent vacation for you from working? How much more stress do you want to add on his shoulders? Wedding, kids, all while you stay home and he works? Damn! Housewife days are over!!!!
2007-04-11 09:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by biggdaddy1669 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 30 years and he has never supported me. In today's world you need two salaries to survive and I wanted to be self reliable and never have to depend on a man to support me. Come into this century lady.
2007-04-11 13:46:36 · answer #11 · answered by dpascoe8692 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋