Will girl date a guy with mental disorder?

Question

Sorry I know it sounds little sad. I was born with something called Social Anxiety Disorder geneticly i wish i never had it. It's condition where i get really nervous sometimes and feel like eyes are looking at me. I'm still good looking person, and doing very well in school transfering to U.C Berkley this fall. I was wondering will girls not like a guy with this? Please be honest.

You guys are great thanks so much!

Answer 1

I'm a guy and i don't think girls generally date guys with mental disorder, though you may be an exception.

Since you got looks, just develop on the charm and your almost there.

Many guys get nervous....

Answer 2

There are some girls that are smart enough, and kind enough to give you a shot! The way I look at it you have a disorder. It's genetic. You are going to Berkley for goodness sake! Obviously you are not mental! You are smart, I'll take your word that you are attractive, I am sure you have a great personality. Any girl would be lucky to have someone like you. And might I say this- I hope this doesn't sound mean- I do not mean it as such- People with disorders- of any kind- are probably THE sweetest, most generous, most loving individuals on the planet because they've had a hard life and they know how to make the best of everything. SO- I say give this guy a shot!!!! I would!

Answer 3

Some will find it charming, some will find it annoying, and some will think you're a loser. Personally, I'd prefer a guy with a mental disorder rather than a jerk, and I am sure I'm not the only one. Plenty of girls will over look the disorder and get to know you, and you might come off as shy, which some girls find attractive.

Answer 4

There is a person for everyone regardless of beauty or state of mind. I speak as someone who was diagnosed and treated for the SAD. Meeting women can be tough on two fronts: 1) You are terrified to go up to a woman and talk to her. Much less actually saying something flirty and romantic where they actually will think of you as a potential boyfriend. 2) If the disorder is severe, you scare potential dates and romantic interest because they think your porblems are worse than they actually are.

My advice to you is to keep going to therapy and taking your meds. Don't even bring up your mental illnesses. You want to downplay your problems and flaws to potential dates. The best thing you can do is coach yourself into opening up to other people. Learn how to relax around people. Especially women. Smile often and flirt.

Just remember. One woman's dog is another woman's babe. If one woman won't have you there are others out there who may. Until the last woman on the face of the earth rejects you, there is always hope of finding someone.

Answer 5

yes if you find the right person after a couple of dates be honest most people have disorders of some kind some people can hide them very well Ive volt. in groups as well as i have many disabilities myself to look at me i look fine even at my age most people think i am 20 to 25 years younger than i am but i have been in hospital with anxiety and depression and i have deluxe a and pace maker and i don't do well out sometimes sounds like to me my own personal view you are doing good if you have a group or a professional to talk to this might help finding someone with the same interest will help with the first coupe of dates or a double date might help but as i always say seek profession answers but i have seen and in the past been attracted to many people when i was younger who had disabilities and not just because i did they were super people with great hearts wanting want everyone in life wants just to be happy good luck on your search hang in there shes or he is out there Debbie c

Answer 6

If you go to Berkley looking for girls, you are forgetting why you are going to school. Go to school to accomplish the higher goals you have set for your life. You have gone 20 something years with everything you were born with and you have 70 years to go with the same equipment. Hone your talents to a cutting edge and be your very best person. There will be a lady in your future who recognizes your talents and efforts. Don't try to be too perfect, you'll show me up.

Answer 7

You know, my father had something similar.

My feelings are this:

As long as you can admit that you have the disorder and allow her the time to learn about it, then you should have no trouble getting and holding a reliationship.
I know that my parents ended up doing couceling after a while so that they could understand how to relate to one another during an "attack" But, I wouldn't have had a problem dating someone with a disorder like that.
Good luck!

Answer 8

They'll only know what you tell them. Yes, of course if you become involved with someone then they will find out sooner or later, but by that point, they'll like you anxiety disorder or not. As long as you can appear confident you'll be fine. Even if you can't, a lot of girls like shy guys. Don't worry.

Answer 9

I know how you feel. I have OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) but I have been in a few long term relationships. You just need to find the right person. You sound like a nice guy..I'm sure you'll do just fine!!

Good Luck!

Answer 10

I dated someone with social anxiety disorder. It's not that bad of a downfall. I was excited I could go out with my girlfriends when I wanted to and let him stay home. Your good looking and continuing your education? That is enough, if a girl can't look past teh fact that you get uncomfortable some times., she is not for you

Answer 11

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