I'm going to an engagement party for a friend and his fiancee this weekend, and I'm wondering if I'm expected to take a gift to this party if I'm planning on going to their wedding?
2007-04-11 08:30:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yep.
2007-04-11 10:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can pick gifts from the wedding registry if they want to bring a gift to the engagement party. As far as showers, the hosts of those will decide if you should register for general things or if there's a theme to the gifts. For instance, a common theme for a bridal shower is kitchen or bedroom stuff, and the hostess will specify a kitchen shower, or bedroom shower, and guests will bring things that go with that theme. (The bedroom theme can get kinky, and who registers for that stuff? *evil grin*) All you need is the one main registry, and the rest will take care of itself from there. You are entirely right that all these separate registries are greedy, and they do send the message that a gift is EXPECTED for everything, or else you wouldn't have registries specifically for each event. Remember that these to-do lists in magazines are sponsored by the companies placing ads, and they want you to think you have tor register for so many things that you'll eventually register for their stuff too. Showing up to just the wedding with one gift is actually quiet expensive, especially considering travel is often involves. Like you, I am also bothered by the growing expectation that gifts will be given so many times during an engagement. This is so expensive, and guests are bled dry.
2016-05-17 21:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by mina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually there are gifts at the engagement party too. At least the ones I have been to. Is there a way you can bring a gift of wine or something for an engagement present and then if others do not bring a gift, wine won't seem out of place? This is what I would do.
2007-04-11 10:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to bring a gift to both. I would bring a gift to the wedding and just bring a nice bottle of wine or a card to the party.
2007-04-11 08:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by deerogre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only required to supply one gift. It is your choice whether to bring that to the engagement party, or to send it to the bride's home before the wedding.
[Note that only the incredibly tacky bring gifts TO the wedding reception.]
If it were me, I would opt for sending something once the wedding invitation is received. In this way I am at least 90% assured that the wedding is going to go through as planned.
2007-04-11 08:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would just get a card save gifts for the bridal shower and wedding.
2007-04-11 08:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by Okaydokay21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but it can be something small. Just like you should to any party---like a hostess gift.
2007-04-14 14:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by Haylebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engagment--Card & $$ (moolah)
Marriage--Toaster/Dish set & $$/card
2007-04-15 06:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by Pippa McClellan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be doubly kind, bring one to each
2007-04-11 08:35:21 · answer #9 · answered by Eric K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a card should suffice.
2007-04-11 13:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by bernel1403 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋