My friend is moving across the country and I thought it would be a nice idea for everyone to have a chance to say goodbye to her over dinner. Unfortunately, I cannot afford to pay for everyone's meal, however, I do plan on bringing a cake. Is it tacky for me to send out an evite invitation telling everyone they are invited to join us all for dinner? How do I imply or state that it is dutch? Should I address gifts on the evite?
2007-04-11 07:32:17 · 6 answers · asked by FutureMrsMarsalia 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you are having the party at your house, you are responsible for the cost and it would be very rude to ask anyone to pitch in.
If you are having the party at a restaurant, you can make it clear in the invitation that everyone is getting together to wish her well at such and such a restaurant. The wording "meet at . . " would imply to me that this was not a hosted deal.
It's still a gracious gesture to buy your friend's dinner and drinks as the guest of honor. The cake is sweet too.
2007-04-11 07:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by Parrot Eyes 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't address gifts, that's a personal choice. Do put in the invitation that in addition to their own tab you're asking that everyone plan to contribute towards the guest of honor. People don't usually expect a going away dinner at a restaurant to be paid for.
2007-04-11 10:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by J M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom is right. You should only invite people to your wedding whom you are close to and have a relationship with in the present, not someone you sat next to in the 1st grade. Likely this would be viewed as inviting everyone you ever knew or met, the mailmain and a gift grab. Though I have reconnected with some childhood friends in recent years, I don't expect them to invite me to their weddings, and they shouldn't expect to be invited to mine.. We're not a part of each others daily lives any longer which is normal.
2016-05-17 21:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it an announcement instead of an invitation. Explain what's happening for the get-together and explain you need and RSVP for the restaurant. People will probably bring gifts whether you mention it or not.
2007-04-11 07:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say "We are taking so-and-so out to dinner to bid her farewell". That implies that you aren't paying (and you shouldn't be! Imagine the cost.) Before you leave you could always ask if anyone needs to hit the ATM.
2007-04-11 09:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should personally call each individual and explain the situation to them. They will understand and you will have a nice time.
2007-04-11 07:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋