My current boyfriend has an ex who will not go away. He has not been in any sort of contact with her since Dec. 2005, when we met. She lives a state away, so at least she is not showing up at our house. All of her harassment is done on-line. When we first started dating she would send him really nasty emails, ie - she was going to report their dog as stolen to the police (which she let him have when they split). She's said she will committ fraud with his information 9she said she had an old copy of his social security card).... sometimes she will just send random emails about what is going on in her life. He has never responded, not once. She'll beg him to contact her because her mom "is on the verge of dying and she's so sad." He washed his hands of her 2 years ago when he came back to their house once day and there were a bunch of used condoms in the trash.She has even hooked up with a new guy and is getting married. What can I legally do? We just want her to go away, FOOR GOOD!
2007-04-11 06:47:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
really, it doesn't matter what we do. we've closed accounts, deleted accts, blocked her emails but she keeps creating new ones to send from. i don't think it's right that we are being harassed and we need to change our email address. Also, changing the email address won't eliminate the phone calls to his family members. Why is she allowed to do this but we need to make all the changes? how will changing his email addres prevent her from emailing his friends with her crud? This problem is bigger than just changing the email address.
2007-04-11 07:09:25 · update #1
So.. if you close his email account, you lose PROOF of what is happening. If she is making phone calls to his family, it might be worth while to buy a recorder and tape the phone calls (check on law in your state about taping calls without the knowledge of the other person).
Irritating bull is annoyance... threats to do a criminal act (file false reports, id theft) are a bit more serious. Give her enough rope to hang herself, and make sure you have evidence. DON'T respond back by making counter threat... but you could send an email to her, telling her to stop contact (and be sure to mention in the email that you are tired of threats, etc). In other words.. make certain that any email you might send, has reference to specifics of how she is harrassing you.
You might also contact the district attorney where she lives, and talk to them about restraining order and when it crosses the line to her making threats.
2007-04-11 09:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by wendy c 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like above posters have said; legally, not much unless she has threatened him physically.
As the "harassment" has been through emails he should block her e-mails. Nearly all internet services providers have a way of blocking e-mail from a particular account and if he cannot easily find it when searching for it, he should contact his provider and ask how to accomplish this.
If she actually does commit fraud (there are many services where he can get reporting monthly for a fee) he has grounds to file criminal charges against her.
2007-04-11 14:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should be printing all these emails and then take them to the police to get a protection order for harassment. Stalking is against the law and this sounds like stalking by email especially if she is contacting his friends and relatives. You might call the police in her town and talk to them to see if anything can be done. If this has been going on for 2 years you should look into getting the police involved.
2007-04-11 14:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing that can be done criminally to her, unless she is threating bodily harm to your boyfriend.
If he was truly worried about the situation, he would have changed his email address and washed his hands of her. Email addresses are easy to change.
You cannot report any fraud with the use of the social security card until you can prove that she had actually tried to use it.
To me, it sounds like your boyfriend likes the attention.
2007-04-11 13:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by william74044 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not just change the email address to avoid further contact?
2007-04-11 13:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by KC V ™ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Block the adress, simple. Have to wonder, though why he hasn't done this already - Is he still into her? Does he like the attention? Is there something between them either in the past or present that your not aware of? or maybe the harassment isn't really harassment after all, maybe she's just a friend and he wants to make himself look like a victim to you. Dunno, sounds like there's more to this story than meets the eye.
2007-04-11 14:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Delete the e-mail account and start a new one. There you go, simple as that. If she keeps speaking of using his information, inform an authority. That is not something to joke about nor bring up just to blackmail him.
2007-04-11 13:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by yourhairsohot 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The answer is SO obvious. Change his email address!!
2007-04-11 14:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a protection from abuse order. As she lives in another state, enforcement is problematic, but this will let her know that you are serious.
2007-04-11 14:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by obelix 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
turn the in for sednin u them nasty e-mails to ur e-mail pruvider
2007-04-11 13:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋