i am dating this girl but she told me recently before we started dating (2 weeks before) that she slept with her ex-boyfriend. However, I had kissed her prior to, but we didnt become exclusive until just a few weeks ago. Do I trust her or dump her? One reason why i dont trust her is because he calls her to come over all the time because he is expecting one thing from her but she does not go, but she still takes his calls.
2007-04-11 06:16:54 · 25 answers · asked by j j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont dump her! she is just being nice.Its hard to tell and ex out right to go blow.Sometimes you want to know they are ok that doesnt mean you want to be with them. She doesnt go that says something its him that is hung up not her .she seems like she chose you and wants you so long as she says no.
2007-04-11 06:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the TRUST is definately gone for whatever reasons you have.
COMMUNICATION TRUST AND HONESTY are keys to a long healthy relationship.......without those ..you have nothing.
For her answering his calls all the time......perhaps they both havn't had closure....something still connects them.
Talk to her, let her know how it makes you feel...even tho you know she hasn't gone to his place on the times he's asked her..but ask her how she would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and you and y our ex were talking alot?? The part about her sleeping with him......YOU TWO werent together......so don't hold that against her. It's up to you if you want to "dump her" as you would put it...........if you feel there is no trust there.......and she's not fully honest with you, and you're not really communicating about it......then YES.........move on with your life and let her do the same~
2007-04-11 13:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a reason not to trust her. You weren't exclusive. You can't hold her past against her. That's really not fair.
What you could do is just say to her, "now that we are exclusive, I just want you to know that it kind of bugs me that you talk to your ex, knowing that he only wants one thing from you. I'm not telling you what to do or who to be friends with, but I just want you to know it bothers me. It's not about not trusting you... I guess I'm just a little insecure about you talking to someone that you were intimate with so recently." Then let her decide how to handle it.
Just don't forbid her to be friends with him. I agree that she shouldn't be friends with him, especially since he doesn't appear to be much of a friend, but I really don't think it would be wise for you to tell her not to be friends with him. Girls really hate that nonsense.
Good luck!
2007-04-11 13:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by a-mac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would cool it off or break it off completely, you could be the rebound and why take the chance of getting hurt, but if you really like her distance yourself give her time to heal over the last ex because by sleeping with him shes showing she might want him still. or she may have found out she doesn't want him at all. find out who dumped who and why. if he dumped her good chance she didn't want the break up. good luck :)
2007-04-11 13:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First. The calls, maybe she picks up the phone to be polite. But think about this, if she doesn't go is because she doesn't want to and she is really into you, because she doesn't go to his calls. Second. That Girl is being honest with you, It takes guts to spit out your past and if you really care about someone you get honest with that person. Its your decision, but always take under consideration what she is doing , she is being honest with you because she cares about your relationship that just started. :) One more thing just be honest with her and tell her how you feel. Good Luck
2007-04-11 13:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by keeperc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too insecure to be in this relationship. What happened before you were exclusive is ancient history and is none of your business. What happens now is. He calling. So what? She's saying no.
2007-04-11 13:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dump her. what ever happened two weeks before you guys started dating is not a problem. so what if he is calling her.....if she isnt going over there...then you shouldn't be worried.
2007-04-11 13:28:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its early in the relationship...the best time to cut her loose! Before your heart gets anymore entangled, tell her she needs to decide what she wants. If and when she decides it is you she wants, and she has completely cut ties with the ex, she can let you know. Until then, you deserve better. Keep looking.
2007-04-11 13:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by MaxitudesMamma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she still takes his calls shows that she still has feelings for him. How long will it take for those feelings to overpower her conscience or and good reason? If you have no problem with that, keep her. On the other hand, if you do.......... well you know the rest!
2007-04-11 13:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have respect for you. Fin someobe else or tell her you will give her some time to sort out tings with her ex to stop seeing him. They are still connected to each other. Don't get treated like crap
2007-04-11 13:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋