I kissed my bf's friend.....should I tell him?

Question

I got pretty drunk at a bar and seen my bf's friend......he kissed me and I kissed him back....when I realized what i was doing I stopped and told him how I felt about my bf and asked him not to say anything....well I think he said something bc the next day my guy told me he had something to talk to me about...he proceeded to ask did you k.....then stopped and said nevermind we'll talk later......but he has never brought it up since then but I don't want him thinking that he can't trust me or that when I go out Im kissing guys b/c thats not the case....I really care for him and want this to work out. So do I tell him what I did or leave it alone since he hasn't mentioned it? I sense nothing wrong between us and he doesn't act weird or different with me......

Answer 1

yes tell him, he may want a 3 way

Answer 2

i honestly can't stand the fact when ppl say "i got sooo drunk and >>>" that's a crock of lard*

COMMUNICATION TRUST AND HONESTY are the keys to a long healthy relationship. Obviously his friend has said he saw you at the bar and you were sooo drunk, and maybe even said YOU kissed Him*..............I would sit your man down and talk to him Openly and Honestly*.........that it was a mistake and it won't happen again. whether he believes that is up to him. You're right.......the Trust im sure is going or is already gone. WOULDN"T YOU be freaking out/hurt/upset if the shoe was on the other foot. Would YOU be able to trust him if he went to a club?? Why do you feel you need to get SOO DRUNK when you're out at a club with friends?? Can you not just have a couple of drinks, dance, chat with friends then go home and knock it up to a fun night.???
You hear of guys (and gals) saying Oh i was so drunk and slept with this person etc...then realized 'what am i doing?".......A) you need to let him know what happend that night and that it's not a common thing for you to do, going about kissing guys.....B) you should stop going to clubs if you can't handle the drinks and your actions after you've had drinks.
GOODLUCK*

Answer 3

So 3 years ago my boyfriend at the times frind kissed me and we were both wasted. So I stopped the kiss and told him that I loved my boyfreind. but I didn't want to ruin their relationship or mine so I said don't worry about it we won't tell him and everything will be fine. We 1 year later the boys got in a fight and his friend told him. He was pissed and it took a long time to get over it, but he was more upset that we lied than what happend. But we ended up getting married anyway. So I think you should always be up front and honest b/c it will hurt him more when he undoubtly finds out and that you didn't tell him.

Answer 4

***** HAPPENS. I know you didn't mean to do it. Alcohol makes you do crazy things. It's not an excuse though.

~Anyways I would ask him what he wanted to talk to you about, because you two need to clear the air. And if he already knows about it from his buddy, and you aren't coming clean with it...then he probably already thinks you are a liar and a cheater.
.Also guys will 9 times out of 10 believe their buddies over a girl...so if you try and lie about it ever happening, well...he won't buy it. So I say your best bet is to re-hash it and ask him what is on his mind, and what he wanted to talk about awhile back.

*Really either way you go...he knows. You're better off admitting to your mistake and owning up to it...then trying to lie, when he already knows what you've done.

~Good luck. let us know what you decide to do :)

Answer 5

Since you sense something is wrong, you need to tell him.
THEN...
accept his right to how he feels about it and responds to it.
I doubt that he wants a 3-way if the friend is another male.
All the men I ever met who were interested in a 3-way wanted it to be him and 2 women.

THEN...
don't drink so much so you don't do stupid things like that

Answer 6

drunk or not you shouldn't have done that. If you tell him you run the risk of loosing him and he won't trust you, but if you don't tell him you are being deceitful and look like you are trying to hide something. I'd say you are up sh.t creek without a paddle. You are damned if you do and damned if you don't, so good luck

Answer 7

well there's 1 problem here , this can lead to more if you don't tell your bf , like your going to end up doing more with that person in the future because the door has already been opened . if your bf is aware then he can watch you like a hawk around that guy , better off i believe

Answer 8

He is testing you to see if your going to tell him but just tell him what happened and you were drunk but you realize you was wrong and told his friend how you felt about him that's all.....if you tell him then he will think that you will tell him everything and he will trust you because he will know if you do something wrong you will tell him

Answer 9

You should tell him in any case , you wouldnt want your bf not trusting you or anything lik that. He might not act different now but who knows how might he act after few weeks... Its better to sort things out earlier than l8er

Answer 10

Truth is always the best for a relationship the trust might go away but not as much as if you didnt tell him.

Answer 11

It will cause a lot of problems if you tell your current b/f. I suggest that you make sure that you just keep clear of the ex and if you cant for some reason, let him know that you are in another relationship and that you are not interested.