I am in love with a boy and we have been together for about 9 months....and i broke up with him cause i thought he was cheating on me.....the next day three people that i know told me he was with his friend. So i asked him about it and he said no....and he is mad at me cause i don't believe him...i don't know what to do. I don't want to lose him. I care more about him than i do myself. I want to be with him, but i don't want to get hurt.
2007-04-11 05:47:06 · 9 answers · asked by LaUrA-pOo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In the world of "relationships" , it's bound to happen that one of you will get hurt. You can't sugar coat everything. You ASSUMED he was cheating on you....you asked him and he said no...but you still didn't trust that was the truth. He of course will be 'mad' wiht you for not believing in him...this is also a catch 22....because some men cheat and of course won't confess to that.........
COMMUNICATION TRUST AND HONESTY are the 3 keys to a long healthy relationship........without those...you have nothing.
You and your man didn't "communicate"...and when he did...you didn't believe his answer therefore the trust and honesty part are also thrown out the window.
You either TRUST him or you don't. If the shoe was on the other foot........and he had assumed you were cheating and you told him no.......would you not be hurt/upset/mad...that he didn't believe you when you answered him truthfully*??? I think so. So it works both ways.
Best sit him down and talk to him more......let him know how much he means to you...and WHY you felt he was cheating...what made you "think" that in the first place. Be HONEST,....and COMMUNICATE to him........You need to rebuild that trust back* GOODLUCK WITH THAT*~
2007-04-11 05:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now i am very blunt and honest and if you don't want to hear that then don't read my response....
why be with someone you don't trust?
you say you "love" him. But with real love there is trust, and a lot of it.
maybe you are having the trust issue! Maybe you should be a little more open minded. you said you broke up with him because you "thought" he was cheating on you. you obviously didn't care about him too much, or you would have liked to have known for sure and went for the truth before going on an assumption. it sounds like it wasn't too hard for you to break it off so why try to put it back together?
in real relationships you have to be open with each other and you have to be honest. if you do get hurt it's all apart of the learning experience.
2007-04-11 05:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are in a relationship you are at risk at you must give the person a chance or else you will keep wondering
(what if) and miss the whole point of love and make yourself unhappy in return and loose someone good. Go brave be cautious and don't jump to conclusions
2007-04-11 05:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your friendsspy on him or maybe your slef don't keep having yourslef being for the blame he might be lying he might not go spy on him have a friend just don't let him ruin your self estime
2007-04-11 05:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by missy*SweetSixteen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go of him there are so many other great guys out there! Of course he would doubt at first obviously he is not gonna start blabbering everything out to u.
2007-04-11 05:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats what every girl is scared of...but if your broke up with him it was for a reason...you should realli think if its worth tryng again
2007-04-11 05:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would stay with him and if he starts acting werid i would just try to win him back
2007-04-11 05:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let go girl he isnt worth it...ur life is just beginning
2007-04-11 05:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lady T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cheat u, so u separate
2007-04-11 05:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by patil.pa2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋