I was w/ my x for 5 yrs & we have 2 kids 2gether. We split up a few mos. ago(my choice). I startd seein this guy rt away & really startd to care about him. Now that relationship has startd to go bad & I'm really hurt about it. My x is still here wantin to get back 2gether & sayin he still luvs me(he doesn't know about the other guy) I'm heart broken over my recent split but I'm startin to think that I should go back to my x bcause honestly he does luv me & what more could I want? I got a taste of being back in the single life & the games ppl play & I know my x's luv is true. I just found out a grl has been callin my x & now I'm scared he's goin to move on if I don't make a decision. I'm not rdy to go back to him yet but I don't want to end up alone. I feel bad bcause he knows somethin botherin me & I can't tell him I'm upset about the othr guy. My x & I hung out for 2 dys, kinda back to normal but I tld him lst nite I'm not rdy yet & now I'm scared the othr guy will find out.. HELP!
2007-04-11 05:20:55 · 8 answers · asked by justbeingme_ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't go back to either guy right now until you know for sure what you want in YOUR heart! You are confused and although you hate playing the singles game, it isn't fair to either one of the guys for you to just pick one because you don't want to be alone! If one of them moves on without you, so be it! But don't go back to the one guy just because you don't want to be alone. Thats NOT right at all! It's better to go it alone right now. Not all guys are pigs. There are plenty of good men in this world! Instead of going to bars, night clubs and other places like that, try the grocery store, library etc. You'd be suprised what you can pick up there besides cookies and fruits! Other yummy dishes too! ;)
2007-04-11 05:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by daisyduke070 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello? Hello? Is this thing on?
Go back to the the first line where you have 2 kids.
THEY are you primary responsibility.
They need a stable home life, not a mama with drama.
It's time for you to grow up and be a parent first.
You want an answer ? You want help? Here it is:
DO WHAT IS BEST FOR THEM !
You're days of being an irresponsible single are OVER, girl.
You chose to have 2 children with a man you are not married to, so the commitment is not there. You don't even mention the M word or the C word.
That's what you are teaching your kids. Is that how you want them to live their lives?
Do whatever is in their best interest, which may be committing to their father.
Right now, what you want is secondary. That's how a responsible adult would look at this situation.
2007-04-11 12:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lorenzo Steed 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are worse things than being alone. Start taking care of yourself and you will find that "true love". Settling for your x will NOT make you happy in the long run and is not fair to him.
Move on with your life and start doing things that interest you and stop putting men first in your life.
2007-04-11 12:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by DeeGee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to step up to the plate and figure out what you want.Do you want your ex or do you want to be single.You cant have both worlds.Someone eventually is going to get hurt.You also have to think why didnt it work out the first time with your ex and, i know that there are children involved so you have to think about them as well.If you had a great relationship with your ex then why did you break up with him?I think you should just be honest with him and, tell him how feel.Just tell him you want to be with him but, you want to take things slow for now.You never know it just may work out in the end.i hope i helped you.good luck.
2007-04-11 12:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's the father of your two childes..your relationship with him should be different than before coz now you have to sacrifice more for the sake of your family (ur kids and their dad) you don't want to bring a stranger guy and expect him to treat them nicely! before, yes you could be more picky with ur boyfriend..but now u have kids! even though, what could you ask for, more than a love from the guy he could truly loves you and more than that..the one he will truly loves your kids ever! what kind of happiness your looking for? sweetie, life is about you and the best you can get from it.. and be wise not to seek the fake happiness! ok
godspeed babe..
2007-04-11 12:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did u break it up in the first place? if it was a good reason too yea. if he truly loves u and u truly love him still i would get back together with him.. i dont blame u for wanting to be with someone rather than alone... tell ur x the truth about u and ur boyfriend when u two have gotten back together good lucK!
2007-04-11 12:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give yourself some more time and space!! I hope you and your x-husband get back together, but take your time! Marriage is suppose to be "till death doth part", not someone better looking or more exciting!
2007-04-11 12:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang you need to chill out. its not that bad being single for a while. you seem desperate.
2007-04-11 12:25:28 · answer #8 · answered by angie n 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋