Would you consider me no fun because I have morals?

Question

I'm not sure if I worded my last question wrong but people are saying because I feel that oral sex is something I want to wait to share with someone I have feelings for that I'm no fun. Does that make me no fun because I have morals I stick to and I respect my body? What is wrong with guys these days? I'm not going to let my morals go just for a man to like me.

Answer 1

A woman that wants to be an angel during the day and a devil at night with the right person is hot!

Don't change your morals for someone else.

Answer 2

Everyone has morals... some are just a lot harder to find and others. Whether you have no morals or high morals... you can still be a fun person. I think more what you're trying to say is are not sexually fun because you won't have oral sex with a guy. Your belief... unlike Bill Clinton's is the oral sex is sex. It's not something you should be nonchalantly. You also like clearly said... although are missing it that you probably would have asked for someone you had strong feelings for. You're not against oral sex you're against the way that it is now treated as nonsexual.... sort of like a really good handshake. Other people or treating it personal and casual and you see it as a much more intimate thing to do with someone you love.

Stick to what you believe in. Now and my younger days I was out with women that would only kiss or maybe let you get a little feel here but would never do oral or anything sexual. They were a lot of fun be with and I respected there wishes.... of course I tested these a lot ... you know I never know when they're going to change their mind so don't blame guys for trying.


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Answer 3

No, you can be fun(go down) and still have morals. It's when you think your poop don't stink that gets to be a turn off. In other words, morals and refusing to give oral sex are not synonyms.
I think what women need to realize is that you all have a wet hole between your legs, and it is not made of gold. A man needs a woman that isn't so restricted by her childhood convictions. Men need sex, and for women to provide that isn't harming anyone, as long as it's done safe. Feeling scared or unsure of having sex is fine, but to think that it is the difference between you being good or bad is ridiculous.

Women often wonder why it is that a man can sleep with the whole town and get a pat on the back, while a woman sleeps with a couple guys and is considered the town tramp. Well, don't buy into it. If you are all tramps like us men, then what's to wonder about?

If some doofus church-dweller tries to use scripture to denounce your sex life, just tell them that they are jealous, because that is just the damn truth. Going to church doesn't make you sub-human and not like sex, so why people get bent out of shape and apply their beliefs to their sex lives is beyond me. I mean, where did sex become something that is forbidden to see and must be done in privacy, but licking eachothers oral orifice(french kissing) is something that makes women melt when watching it in a movie? If I saw a couple getting it on in a park, I would think it was completely natural, and I'd take my hard-on and go about my business. Does this make me a pervert? Sure. But so what if you're a pervert too? I mean, it's sex. It is probably THE MOST enjoyable thing a man and woman can possibly do together, so why the hell does it have to be so morally restricted?

Answer 4

Having morals is a great thing! You should be proud of yourself for being able to stick by those morals and not peer pressure change your mind. Just because you stick by your morals doesn't make you boring or "no fun" because you can still be just as fun and just as crazy and out of control as every one else. The difference is you know the difference between fun and what is sexual and should be preserved for something special.
I don't even know that I would do that with or to somebody and I haven't had sex, yet, my friends still consider me fun and outgoing. You don't have to be one or the other to define whether you are "fun" or not, just be yourself and anyone that isn't ready to wait for feelings to develop between the two of you isn't worth your time or friendship, muchless have a relationship with.

Answer 5

I think it is classy that you have morals and you aren't gonna be over some guy like a skank or something like some of them may want. The way you handle yourself will show how people will treat you. While some make think you "boring" or whatever they will know you respect yourself enough not to go and put yourself out there so a guy will like you. Guys have a problem with hormones and half the time they are thinking not with their head but something else. I think you are correct in you should share all that with someone you love and are comfortable doing it with, and not doing it just to be liked. You got your head in the right place and I respect you for making a great decision.

Answer 6

Wow, u got more replies to this Q than to the other. Gives me hope that more ppl r defending u bcuz of morals than trying to put u down bcuz of the oral Q. Which btw, was funny that these ppl who got all testy about ur other Q hadn't even read the Q clearly. They sure were opinionated n "informed"about sex but too dumb to read n understand something correctly.
U can b just as fun as the next person!

Answer 7

I commend you on having morals. I have high morals and sometimes feel I'm the only one left with them! I also have a lot of fun, and you can have fun without doing anything sexual. I wish more guys had morals. It's so much nicer to date a guy that hasn't slept with/tried to sleep with every girl in town.

Answer 8

There are lots of things that are fun to do that don't have to involve sex (at least until you are married or comfortable with it with your partner).

More than morals, I think it means you have class. Enjoy life and remember anyone who tries to get you to do something that isn't what you want to do doesn't deserve to be your friend.

Answer 9

Hi, I wanted to answer your question, but I think you are smart and you already know the answer. Yes, you definitely have morals and a choice. You don't have to do anything like that if you don't want to. If somebody makes you feel bad because of your decision, it may be because all they want, is what they want. Your feelings and decision are so important, so don't ever let anybody make you feel bad. I commend you :) You are strong, stay that way!!!

Answer 10

If you want a quality guy, keep your morals. The good ones will like you for that.