So I met this girl about four months ago and we have been hanging out a lot since. I did ask her on a date a couple of weeks after I met her, but she wanted to be friends. Recently she came over to hang out, it was just me, my friend, and her. We had a few drinks, and went out for some food. When we were there she kept saying she was not looking for a boyfriend right now and she needed some dudes to hang out with, but I was her favorite, and kept putting her head on my shoulder. The next night we hung out with more of my friends and by the end of the night we ended up on my roof, where she laid on me, and we talked until she fell asleep. After awhile I woke her up and we went back inside and fell asleep in my bed. After that she really started to hang out with me, even went to a movie together the next weekend, though it was with one of her friends and one of my buddies who has been hanging out with her friend. I am lost does she like me more than a friend? What does she want? HELP!
2007-04-11 03:29:30 · 17 answers · asked by CJS GuitarMan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ya that was to much for me to read. sorry but i am only answering this question to get some points
2007-04-11 03:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by Adam M 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Eventually she most likely wants you to be a "friend with benefits" kind of guy. But you wont know the whole story until this entire situation plays itself out. Do you want to be her man? Would you be hurt badly if she eventually doesn't give you that special relationship you are might be wishing for? Because if you will be the only one playing this "tennis match" jumping hoops around the net in order to hit the ball you will fall right on your face and it wont be pretty! In other words...if your goals here don't jive and you end up feeling used for a fool then you need to stop this now, give your head a shake and re-evaluate the situation. It's not impossible to have girl "friend" unless it gets complicated as in your situation...good luck bro!
2007-04-11 10:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she just wants the idea of a "boyfriend" with out the commitment and seriousness of a relationship. Who knows, she could one day ask you for sex. I think she's probably in a bad place right now, things may progress, but just take it for what it is. It sounds like you guys are having a great time and that's all that matters, but do not wait around for her. If something else comes up, go with that. No point in turning down something that could be great because another chick can't make up her mind. If it's meant to be it will happen. Just go with the flow.
2007-04-11 10:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It kind of sounds like you are being played a little bit, but that is just my opinion. I don't at all think it is appropriate what this girl is doing to you. She very well may like you more then a friend and has been hurt in previous relationships and is just a little scared but it really sounds more like playing to me. Do you know if she is "hanging" around any other guys, maybe she is just wanting to date and not be devoted to one person. I think you are going to have to confront this young lady and ask her what she is doing, and what she is expecting from you. If she gives the friends with benefits speech and that is not what you want then you are going to have to cut the ties and go from there.
Good luck, this is a tough one.
2007-04-11 10:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by michy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wants all the benefits of a boyfriend without any of the costs.
She wants someone to hang out with, but her stuff, give her rides and a safe bed to sleep in without worrying about giving back. Lots of women do this, usually to a well off guy they are not attracted to.
My advice, force her hand, push for something more (a relationship) and don't settle for less.
Disclaimer: Be prepared to be dumped.
2007-04-11 10:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by stn1225 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wants the comfort of hanging out with you, but she doesn't want the responsibility of a relationship. A friend does not sleep in the same bed as you do, and lay on you until they fall asleep. She is clearly crossing the boundaries of friendship. If you are okay with it, go with it. She'll dump you as soon as another guy comes along that she likes better.
2007-04-11 10:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if we take her by her own words I'd say no. Perhaps she just really enjoys spending time with you as a friend and as she said shes not looking for a boyfriend right now. But who knows, the more and more time you spend together, her feelings could change. Maybe you should try talking to her about it again and see....how she currently feels.
2007-04-11 10:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is making you the go to guy and she wants to perks of a relationship but not the commitment. If you like her then tell her if not draw the line as to what is oaky and what isn't. We both know what will happen she will just find someone elses cornflakes to cry in.
2007-04-11 10:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
so you got lost.... didn´t ask for directions and ended up in the "friend zone".....
that´s the thing about experience... you don´t get it until right after you need it.....
my experience tells me that whenever you have a girl in your bed..( or if you in a girls bed) GO FOR IT!!!!
Kisses on the next is a really good place to start cuz 99% of girls love kisses on the neck.
2007-04-11 10:35:54 · answer #9 · answered by James R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you guys are close enough for you to ask her that question yourself.
As a woman, my opinion is that she knows you like her and she's flirting to torture you. :) lol.
She may also be looking for a friend with 'special privileges' and testing the waters to see if you are willing. She may NOT be looking for a relationship.
2007-04-11 10:34:09 · answer #10 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Always leave an allowance for doubt. Maybe she's just very sweet. Ask her politely and carefully if she does like you.
If you like her too, just do good to her more and more each day. (wink)
2007-04-11 10:36:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anthony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋