well... how do you cope with the diffrent attributes of your mil and yourself in bringing up ur kids. you want a time table.. she says no feed them whenever ,
you give them fruits in day but she wont listen etc etc ...just how do u cope?
2007-04-11 03:19:41 · 6 answers · asked by barley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
joint family-staying under ONE roof
2007-04-11 03:30:41 · update #1
You know,generation-gap, will certainly play its vital role in all such cases. And yet, pls try to understand the things, in a proper perspective and act with forbearance-try not to hurt the feelings of the elders but explain to them your stand in a convincing way.I don't think, she will not understand you-being herself a mother.
2007-04-11 23:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by voleti v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OM MIL can be such a problem sometimes when it comes to your children. I love my MIL to pieces but sometimes they just dont understand that its YOUR child and they had their's already. I think that you have to say something. Say it nicely and respectively but you have to put your foot down nonetheless. I live with my grandfather in law and sometimes I have to tell him when something is or isnt allowed. And if she isnt actually doing anything but just trying to tell you how, then ignore her and do it your way anyway. But if she is actively going against your wishes, that has to be stopped. And it doesnt matter whos house your at. I understand that you live together now but in the future when your out of that house and they visit, she should still follow your wishes. Period. Make her understand that. They are NOT her children. How would she like it if someone had done that when she was raising her children? Ask her that.
2007-04-11 12:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does not matter where you live and culture u belongs MILs can be over protective and interfering. You have to tackle politely and politically. End result should be peace full solution. Try to explain your mother in laws with Doctors advise tell mother in law that you have read something some where if you do this way then you will benefit from it. Try to be policed and cleaver the way you deal and things will work out in your favour. Good luck Spartan
2007-04-12 06:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by Spartan Total Warrior 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shud be tactful abt this
tell ur mil that she has already raised her kids the way she wanted.. and now its ur turn.. u have certain things in mind.. and want to try them..aftr all u want the best for ur kids.. and if u find that some of the things she says make more sense then u follow those..
dont fight with her.. explain to her calmy.
never give in to ur mil's unreasonable demands. once it starts it will never end..
be firm.. it make take time.. but atleast u will be respected.
2007-04-11 11:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the baby is at her house, she does it her way.
When the baby is at your house, you do it your way.
What's the problem?
2007-04-11 10:25:12 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIVE DUE WEIGHTAGE TO HER SHE ALSO HAS SOME ROLE TO PLAY.
2007-04-14 11:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋