I am really struggling trying to find a balance with breastfeeding a 6 month old, playing with a 3 year old, a full time job from 7:00am to 4:00pm and still have the energy for my husband in the evening . I am so tired and can’t even find time for myself these days. Does anyone have some inspiring advice that could help me?
2007-04-11 02:46:43 · 13 answers · asked by Autum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I had 2 kids, 4 jobs, no husband and no car. I wore out a few pairs of runners. LOL
2007-04-11 03:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your husband also helping with the kids? If not, ask him to pitch in. I'm assuming you have someone watching the kids during the day. Is it possible for that person to stay with them one night a week so you and your husband can have a date night? After the kids are in bed, give your husband the remote and tell him you'll be soaking in the tub for a few hours and that you're not to be disturbed. Schedule a "me day" once a week or once every other week where your husband takes full charge of the house and the kids and you go do whatever you want to do. You're right, you need some balance and it's up to both you and your husband to make sure you are being nurtured so you can continue to nurture him and the kids.
2007-04-11 04:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no magic answer. What works for me may not work for another. However, planning and organization is the key. I use Saturday mornings (I'm a morning person) to do major household chores and plan and prepare clothing, accessories, projects, etc for the upcoming week. I plan out meals in advance to avoid unnecessary stress of doing it day by day and getting frustrated. I spend Saturday afternoons with the kids and the evening is for me and the hubby.
During the week - the kids have a set bedtime 8pm which gives me at least an hour to myself and every couple of nights I'll stay up late and spend some quality time with my husband. It's not easy but it works.
Hang in there - you'll get the hang of it.
2007-04-11 04:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by That Deal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...all we can advice is hire a full-time maid and learn time management. You can spend time with your kids even in the bath tub! And they enjoy that too! Suctioned breastmilk fed by a bottle can relieve your burden sometimes when you are really really tired. When you come back home sleep for two hours until 6 and then start your evening shift with kids and husband. Go to sleep at 10 pm sharp. Cut sown the TV/Internet time, if any.
2007-04-11 02:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say. I Have 2 boys they are 13, and 11. I'm married and work 2 jobs. I also find it hard. The only time I fine family time is on the weekends. It is very hard. I miss out on alot. I try to set aside some me time every other week. Like going to the sore by my slef even if I'm not buying anything. I go out to lunch by my slef. Go get hair done or tan. Something for my slef that makes me feel good. You should set aside alest 1to 2 hrs for youe slef. Do something for you. Even if its take a nice hot bath. I wish I could give you something better. Have a good day....
2007-04-11 02:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a really supportive husband then you both can work on taking care of the children in the afternoon so it will leave more quality time for you and your husband later in the evening.
2007-04-11 03:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by lookingwesttexas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no magic answer. You have responsibilities that you cannot ignore. Perhaps get someone to do some cleaning for you and get a babysitter. Set aside an evening to relax and go out with your husband. A happy couple = a happy family.
2007-04-11 02:52:59 · answer #7 · answered by father of 4 husband of 1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to help but I'm to tired out from 4 kids, a job, and a husband!
2007-04-11 02:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely while you're already doing 30-35 hrs week, the 40 that makes complete time isn't that lots distinctive. while you're making a minimum of the comparable volume of money when you pay the childcare, then you definately are extra efficient off because of the fact then you definately might have extra toddlers time and kin time and husband and spouse time. sounds like a thank you to bypass.
2016-10-28 10:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell your husband how hard your life is and tell him he may help. Actually you are a great woman capable of all things but you need sympathy and love. A great kiss from your husband will relieve you from all troubles.
2007-04-11 03:22:40 · answer #10 · answered by joy bharat s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋