So many people say that they had their first boyfriend in elementary school but they didn't have their first "real" boyfriend until high school. What is the difference? and what is the difference between dating someone and having a boyfriend? Because I know so many people who are 14 that say " I have had 4 boyfriends but I have never went out anywhere with a guy." How could that be?
2007-04-11 02:10:39 · 15 answers · asked by ~ ♥ ~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't rush into it. Take your time
2007-04-11 02:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elementary school...a crush or liking someone...they are a child and are just testing the waters.
High school boyfriends...could be a crush or a first love...more than likely will not last for a lifetime.
Never been out with a guy is like having a school boyfriend...holding hands walking down the hall and things like that.
All of the things you mentioned are people testing the waters and are immature relationships.
When they are adults they will date, probably more than one person, before they find someone they really love. And they might work out and get married or might get their heart broken a dozen times before they find the right person to share the rest of their life with.
There is a huge difference between childhood love and adult love...sorry, just the way it is.
Hope this gives you some kind of a clue to answer your questions.
be cool...
2007-04-11 09:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "4 boyfriends but I have never went out anywhere with a guy" is when you are really young, and so are they, and you aren't allowed out on dates, so you hold hands in the schoolyard, and sit on the school bus together and the whole relationship is lucky to last for a couple of weeks. The first "real" boyfriend is the one you actually are seen in public with, that you kiss, maybe a bit more physical, and is someone you think is the love of your life (but rarely turns out to be so). Don't rush things, stay cool, it all happens in time.
2007-04-11 09:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In elementary school being a boyfriend or girlfriend is centered on social expectations. The boy and girl "play" at being boyfriend and girlfriend, even if to them it seems real. This is good practice for "real" dating later.
Starting around age 12, (give or take), this interaction matures. Expectations become clearer, and emotions become more intertwined with the relationship. Very few relationships survive from this stage to full maturity.
A couple more developments happen after this. In the late teens or early twenties, most people start to want to pair off (get married for most). The added expectation is that a potential partner is capable of long term stability.
The last stage (that I know of) comes after children. The bodies of both men and women go through physical changes at this point. The intense longing of early romance matures into caring feelings, for not only their sexual partner, but for offspring as well. The "rolling boil" of early romance is replaced by a more sustainable "simmer" of feelings.
Each "level" of romantic interest has its own advantages and disadvantages. Some people get stuck at one level and don't mature. Others "jump ahead" only to be disappointed by differing expectations. Think with your head as well as your heart, and ask the advice of elders if you want to do well.
2007-04-11 09:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by Nels N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people are younger the definition of dating is not like it is when you get older, People in elementary school just go out with people because they are hot or popular , Getting in to high school people start going out to the mall or the movies and parties and people start having sex. Once you get past high school is when we grow up and do it the right way by going to dinner and we get to know people and go out a few times to see if the person is right to spend a lot of time with. Elementary is something I call puppy love as we get older the relationships get more serious!
2007-04-11 09:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by cbella06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They were boys and they were friends and they hung out exclusively. That is what childhood boyfriends are.
Dating is different.......it's when you go out with a guy and it's either one or many.
Having a boyfriend when you get older is the one you date exclusively.
It's the same but different.
When you are a child there is no physical attractabilty, you are friends just because you like each other as people.
2007-04-11 09:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys and girls(especially girls) like to feel older than they really are. they imitate what older people do to make themselves feel more mature. in elementary school, its just a silly game, like playing house. middle school/junior high is pretty much just holding hands and flirting, not a real relationship. high school and into college, people date and go out to places and become more serious in their actions. ther have finally reached a level of semi-maturity to where they feel that they are "deep" and can sustain a real relationship.
the difference between dating and "going out" is dating is not exclusive. you could be dating three guys at once and nothing is wrong with that. "going out" is a real, exclusive, relationship.
2007-04-11 09:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by .life.love&happiness. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
little girls seem to think that just saying will u go out with me and then having them b ur bf in school means that u 2 r hooked up... they never really go out with the guy they just let ppl kno they r dating. i was in elementary school and didnt have a bf... but the girls that say they havent had a real bf until high school means that they just never really understood the full meaning of dating each other and goin places together.
2007-04-11 09:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 20 and I still haven't had a "real boyfriend",but I've had friends with benefits. I wouldn't call those guys my ex-boyfriends becuz we were never really in a relationship. If it's not serious then you can't really put the title bf or gf on it that's the way I see it.
2007-04-11 09:19:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL in junior school....just being with one fellow alot..is classified as having a boyfriend..even if they only see each other during school hours and never going out after school together...Not sure why they say" they have a boyfriend"....that's why it only happens in junior school...when girls get to highschool..they tend to do things with their "boyfriend" after school...go to a show, dinner, hang with friends and are together alot..going steady...dating...boyfriend...all pretty much equals the same...just depends on your age and what you want to call it.
2007-04-11 09:29:05 · answer #10 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well primary school boyfriends are just really nothing there are just really close friends that don't do much...but be close friends that tell each other that they love each other
A high school boy friend is like you first time like your first time to kiss a guy and your first time to have sex
And in the big bad world.....when your like in college or your getting ready to get married thats real love thats when its time to settal down stop parting and have kids and spend the rest of your life with
2007-04-11 09:17:22 · answer #11 · answered by emoteenager 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋