My local church pastor and I differed over some church and family issues. Nowadays, every Sunday, his Bible verse readings and sermons seem clearly rehearsed and delivered to justify his views and position before the congregation while demonizing me, just stopping short of condemning me to Hell-fire!
2007-04-11 01:23:21 · 13 answers · asked by ari-pup 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am not paranoid. My daughter is expecting but not yet wedded and I feel offended if the pastor habitually but subtly uses her as example to moralize about modesty or portraying her as a bad example to other girls in the community!! when did having a baby an unforgivable sin?
2007-04-11 03:47:35 · update #1
Okay, are you sure you're not just taking whatever he preaches personally? After all that is usually the point of preaching - to get you to take the message personally. Check your assertion by asking others in the congregation if they thought it was directed at anyone.
If it is directed at you, simply confront the pastor in private. If that doesn't work, haul him over the coals in public. If it really is directed at you, I don't think he will be able to resist rising to the bait.
2007-04-11 01:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times we may take what the pastor says at heart. Most pastors write a sermon and just preach the message no matter who it affects. There are some pastors who preach on whatever happened in his life for the past week. For example, if he talked to some parents about their kid fighting in school, he will preach on Sunday morning about fighting in school. We had one pastor that preached that way. On Sunday morning we were all looking around to try and figure out who he was preaching about. Sometimes we knew but by the end of the sermon we would know who he was preaching about. That is sad and it hurts a church when the pastor preaches in that manner. If you have a preacher like that you need to go talk to him and let him know how you feel. Most pastors are pastors who just preach the word and something in his sermon will hit everyone in the church. Make sure that is not what is happening. Conviction is a hard thing to deal with but when you know you are being convicted and not teased, just follow what the Lord tells you and you will be fine.
2007-04-11 01:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by ABBY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one man. This really is tough. Honestly, any advice I would give you- you probably already know. Like, step one would be to talk to him about it. Instead of attacking him say something like this, "I've noticed recently that you've had a lot of scriptures and talks that speak out against some of the issues you and I have disagreed over- would you like to talk more about these issues?" Or ask him why this issue is so important to him that he needs to talk about it so much? It's interesting why people pick the battles they do?
If he's not going to change- then all you can do is change yourself- are you willing to stop fighting about it and just let him ramble on?
If this is a fight really worth having- and really worth disagreeing over- then maybe you need to go to a different church- but I really wouldn't reccomend that b/c there is something special and important and redemptive about conflict and working through disagreements. Sticking it out, and dealing with them head on as opposed to running away from them. But, that will only work if your pastor is also willing to be an adult about it and willing to deal with the issue head on.
Good luck.
2007-04-11 02:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by DrThorne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to look for another church, with more compatible minister and parishioners... I used to attend a church where the pastor did things like that, it was way unnatractive, it was never aimed at me, but instead of writing a sermon based on common issues of the day, he would use the pulpit to try to make others look bad, and talk about his issues with whoever in the local community. (not only in church, anyone he was butting heads with in town as well, and he was the sort that wound up in that sort of situation alot...) It only made him look bad in my eyes, not the other people. It was only about trying to air his personal gripes, and it might at least have been worth it if he could come up with a spiritual lesson, and an example how to resolve such situations in a Christ like way, but that was never part of it, only trying to use his pulpit as a forum to air his personal gripes. The pulpit is an innapropriate place for that stuff.
Edit: Wow, he's picking on your young daughter for making a mistake? How awful is that? All the more so if he is picking on your daughter when his real problem is a disagreement with you over what attitude you should take toward it or what you should do about it, the least he could do is be a man about it and take it up with you in person instead of picking on teenage girls, egads... Sounds like he is doing this purposely to humiliate your daughter in front of the congregation, is that Christ like behavior?
2007-04-11 02:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by beatlefan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that the pastor knows nothing of your personal situation but you are being convicted because something he is saying is ringing true. I know many pastors have given a message having no idea how many folks will be convicted by something he says. Perhaps God is speaking through the pastor.
However, if he, the pastor, knows your situation and is publicly speaking out to you, you have every right to question his motives. Make an appointment with him / her and ask him that straight out. That way you aren't wondering but have it straight from his mouth..
2007-04-11 01:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to speak with him. Tell him how you feel, and see if he is making the sermons towards you. If so tell him you do not like it and ask him to change. Otherwise go to a different church
2007-04-11 01:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by dirtbikechiky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody has the the perfect option to an opinion on politics. The catholic church has consistently advised their parishioners abortion and homosexuality is a sin. they in lots of cases do no longer come perfect out and tell them who to no longer vote. whilst any church preaches hate speech they might desire to lose their tax exempt status, like whilst they say hateful issues at our wounded hero's funerals or burn the holy books of yet another denomination, or in the event that they tell them to kill the infidels.
2016-10-21 14:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by fugere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going to church, try the science museum, you might even like it !
2007-04-11 01:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the church. sounds like a poor example of a leader.
2007-04-11 01:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by Invisible_Flags 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going to his church, he obviously does not like you. Stop whining and act like a man. He is a human being and not some mystical entity.
2007-04-11 01:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋